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The go-girl guide : surviving your 20s with savvy, soul, and style
Bourland, Julia.
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Publication Information:
Lincolnwood, Ill. : Contemporary Books, [2000]

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xii, 340 pages ; 21 cm
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HQ1229 .B62 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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A woman's 20s are a roller coaster of highs and lows, unseen twists, and frustrating turns. Irreverent yet helpful and information, The Go-Girl Guide covers everything from dating to climbing the career ladder to dealing with a body that has packed on some pounds, exactly what girls just entering or already swimming in this brave new world need to know. Julia Bourland's straight-talking survival guide puts the entire decade in perspective, giving you a sense that the uncensored insider's scoop from an older, more worldly sister.

Author Notes

Julia Bourland is a 20-something freelance writer who has written dozens of articles on women's health, fitness, and lifestyle for such national magazines as Shape , Woman's Day , Conde Nast Women's Sports and Fitness , Parenting , and Rebecca's Garden . Prior to freelancing, she worked as an associate editor at Parenting .

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. vi
The Author's 20sp. viii
Introduction: Rooaaarrrr!!!!!!!p. x
Part I Our Careers
1 "What the F%@#!!! Am I Going to Do with My Life?"p. 3
The Soul-Search Train
The Career Psychics
Internship Insight
Occupational Guidebooks
The Insiders
The Trial-and-Error Approach
2 The Job Huntp. 19
Tunnel of Horror
Getting Set Up
Vibing the Company
Paper Coquetry
The First Interview
The Rejection Factor
Considering Commitment
Negotiating the Offer
3 The Entry-Level Initiationp. 43
The Induction
Culture Shock
Bonding with the Elders
The Ultimate Elder
Tribal Speak
Rising Through the Ranks
The I Hate My Job Syndrome
Beyond Entry Level
Part II Our Love Lives
4 The Mating Frenzyp. 69
Getting to the Starting Line
Ladies, Start Your Engines
And the Race Begins (The First Date)
Laps Two and Three
Red Flag Alert
Safety Hazards
Staying on Track
The Final Lap: Are We Dating Yet?
5 Adventures in Couplehoodp. 93
Lesson #1 Self-Preservation
Lesson #2 Communication
Lesson #3 Conflict Resolution
Lesson #4 Romance Maintenance
Long-Distance Dating
When It's Time to Dump a Guy
Getting Over a Breakup
On Taking Minibreaks
Moving in with Mr. Maybe
Swapping Vows
6 You Sexy Thingp. 123
Let the Cannonballs Fly!
Choosing Our Comrades in Bed
The One- (or Two-) Night Stand
The Sex History Talk
Our Sexual Health
A Word or Two on Birth Control
7 The Upredictable Female Orgasmp. 145
Truth #1 All Women Climax Differently
Truth #2 Orgasms Don't (Pardon the Pun) Come Easily
Truth #3 Our Partners Need Pointers on What Turns Us On
Truth #4 Intercourse, Alone, Doesn't Cut It (At Least, for Most of Us)
Truth #5 Not All Orgasms Have the Same Oomph
Truth #6 The Mind Has More Verve than a Vibrator
Truth #7 Orgasms Aren't Proof of Good Sex
The Libido Crash and Revival
Part III Our Body and Soul
8 Emotional Theatricsp. 163
The Identity Crisis
That Self-Loathing Feeling
"I'm So Stressed Out!"
"Is There Anybody Out There?"
Moving 101
When You Have the Blues
A Mental-Health Checkup
9 The Body-Image Demonsp. 195
The Value of Being Cute
Real Women and the Airbrushed
Ads That Promise the Universe
The Roots of Body-Image Blues
The Scapegoat Factor
The Body Morph
One Week Without Obsessions
A Wardrobe You Love
Bathroom Scale Torch
Mirror, Hateful Mirror!
Exercise and Proper Fuel
Body Image and the Bedroom
The Mind Factor
10 That Whacked-Out Body Feelingp. 211
Our Size and Shape
Our Faces
Our Skin
Our Hair
Our Digestive Systems
Our Reproductive Systems
Our Feet
Exercise Guidelines
Nutrition Guidelines
Screening Tests to Get Right Away
Part IV Our Support Group
11 Family Knotsp. 243
Who Are These People (And What Did They Do with My Parents)?
Cutting the Cord
Unresolved "Issues"
Sibling Rivalry No More!
Sharing the Nest
Home for the Holidays and Other Visits
The Bizarre Role Reversal
Starting a Family of Our Own
On Becoming Friends
12 Our Surrogate Familyp. 269
The Maintenance Factor
Downsizing the Circle
Forging New Bonds
Mixing Boyfriends into the Stew
Grouping the Gang
Part V Our Finances and Other Loose Ends
13 Financial Chaosp. 289
On Being Dirt Poor
Our Budget
The Price of Fun
Money Etiquette
Getting Out of Debt (And Staying Out)
Saving for Retirement
The Crisis Fund
Investing Extra $$$
One Final Taxing Matter
14 Loose Endsp. 323
Our Birthdays
Theme Music
The Three-Month Marker
Top 10 List of Things to Do in Your 20s
Keep On Movin'
Go-Girl Resourcesp. 329
Indexp. 333