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Mars and Venus in the workplace : a practical guide for improving communication and getting results at work
Gray, John, 1951-
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New York : HarperCollins Publishers, 2002.
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xii, 290 pages ; 22 cm
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John Gray shows that by understanding the differences between men and women in the workplace, anyone can identify and respond to various business approaches in a manner that earns greater respect and promotes increased cooperation. By recognizing how men and women interpret behaviors and reactions differently, a person can make more informed choices of how to make the best impression.

Mars and Venus in the Workplace analyzes the differences in the ways men and women communicate, solve problems, react to stress, earn respect, promote themselves, experience emotional support, minimize conflict, score points, view sex, and ask for what they want. By showing the many ways men and women misunderstand and misinterpret each other in the workplace, John Gray offers practical advice on reducing unnecessary conflict and frustration. Filled with his trademark communications charts and practical advice on everyday office issues, Mars and Venus In The Workplace will enable readers to achieve their goals and to make the workplace a source of fulfillment.

Author Notes

Author of the best selling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) and its sequels, John Gray is a frequent guest on popular talk and news programs on both radio and television and teaches seminars on relationships and communication. He has written over fifteen books including Why Mars and Venus Collide. His books have been translated into 45 languages.

He lived as a monk for nine years, receiving his bachelors and masters degrees in Creative Intelligence from Maharishi European Research University. He received his Ph.D. in psychology from Columbia Pacific University and is a Certified Family Therapist. He is also a consulting editor of The Family Journal. In 2001, he received the Smart Marriages Impact Award.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Reviews 2

Booklist Review

Gray, internationally known author of the best-selling relationship guide, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992), now focuses on gender-based conflict in the workplace. Gray's simplistic but popular theory that men and women behave, interact, and react differently has attracted legions of fans and followers. Once again, he stresses that all of us need to understand these differences in order to coexist peacefully. The techniques expressed in this book, designed for both men and women, are derived from Gray's past successes and incorporate some of his trademark tools, such as communication charts, sample dialogues, and lists of dos and don'ts. Packing his presentation with helpful tips for men and women who wish to coexist productively in a work environment, Gray offers practical advice for avoiding common misunderstandings and reducing friction between the sexes. His book will undoubtedly receive considerable media attention, so librarians may want to purchase multiple copies. --Kathleen Hughes

Publisher's Weekly Review

Gray made a splash with his bestselling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, attributing stereotypical traits to each gender and advising the other how best to respond to or work around these characteristics. Building on that theory, Gray claims that "men and women think, feel, and communicate differently in the workplace," and applies his hypothesis to the business environment. As in his previous books, Gray's writing style is repetitive, bolstering a few simple ideas with plenty of generalizing and gender clichs. While alleging that the traits he assigns to men and women are innate rather than learned or cultural describing them as driven by "instinct," "basic nature" and "a function of one's level of testosterone" he offers no proof of this theory, simply assuming that his audience trusts his presumptions. Many of Gray's sweeping statements don't ring true, e.g., his assertions that men don't mind being interrupted while women do, or that women care about relationships, not competence, where they work. Gray does offer some generic, useful advice, such as keeping personal emotions out of the workplace while making sure that one's personal life provides stress relief and opportunities for self-expression. In identifying common personality types and traits, though, Gray might have simply said that some people are Venusians while others are Martians, instead of using tiresome gender stereotypes. While he's unlikely to win new converts with this rehash of his now familiar material, Gray's faithful fans will not be disappointed. Agent, Linda Michaels. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
1 Mars and Venus in the Workplacep. 15
2 Speaking Different Languagesp. 23
3 Sharing Is from Venus, Grumbling Is from Marsp. 35
4 Mr. Fix-It and the Office Improvement Committeep. 60
5 Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talkp. 83
6 Feelings in the Workplacep. 102
7 Why Men Don't Listen ... or Do They?p. 122
8 Rules Are from Mars, Manners Are from Venusp. 151
9 Setting Boundariesp. 177
10 Minimizing Stress with Emotional Supportp. 207
11 Standing Up and Standing Outp. 233
12 Scoring Points in the Workplacep. 259
13 Remembering Our Differencesp. 287