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Forgiveness is a choice : a step-by-step process for resolving anger and restoring hope
Enright, Robert D.
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First edition.
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Washington, DC : American Psychological Association, [2001]

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ix, 299 pages ; 23 cm
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BF637.F67 E57 2001 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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A self-help text for people who have been deeply hurt by another and caught in a vortex of anger, depression and resentment. Robert D. Enright shows how forgiveness can reduce anxiety and depression while increasing self-esteem and hopefulness toward one's future. The volume demonstrates how forgiveness, approached in the correct manner, benefits the forgiver far more than the forgiven, and seeks to lead the reader on a path that will bring clarity and peace. Enright is careful to distinguish forgiveness from ""pseudoforgiveness"", and to reassure readers that forgiveness does not mean accepting continued abuse or even reconciling with the offender. Rather, by giving the gift of forgiveness, readers are encouraged to confront and let go of their pain in order to regain their lives.

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Robert D. Enright, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Wisconsin, Madison

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Library Journal Review

According to the results of the Human Development Study Group at the University of Madison, WI, forgiveness leads to improved physical and mental health as well as better relationships. This practical, nonsectarian, self-directed guide is deeply rooted in that study, of which educational psychologist Enright was a leader. Unlike other books on forgiveness (e.g., the writings of Lewis B. Smedes and Philip Yancey), this work doesn't cater to the casual reader seeking hints for self-improvement; Enright's readers must be committed and immerse themselves in the four stages of self-discovery uncovering anger, deciding to forgive, working on forgiveness, and discovery and release. Stressing that the process of forgiveness is different for each person, Enright advises flexibility, discourages the premature setting of specific goals, and encourages readers to draw on the support of a friend or therapist as they work through the phases. This debut title of the American Psychological Association's new trade imprint, APA LifeTools, is highly recommended. Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., CA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Part I Forgiveness is a Choicep. 1
Chapter 1 Forgiveness: A Path to Freedomp. 3
Chapter 2 What Forgiveness Is ... and What It Is Notp. 23
Chapter 3 Why Forgive ... and the Consequences of Not Forgivingp. 45
Part II The Process of Forgivenessp. 69
Chapter 4 A Map and Tools for Your Journeyp. 71
Chapter 5 Acknowledging Your Angerp. 93
Chapter 6 Confronting the Depth of Your Angerp. 107
Chapter 7 Committing to Forgivep. 125
Chapter 8 Gaining Perspectivesp. 139
Chapter 9 Building Positive Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviorsp. 157
Chapter 10 Experiencing Discovery and Release From Emotional Prisonp. 171
Chapter 11 Saying "I Forgive You"p. 187
Part III Going Deeperp. 197
Chapter 12 More Questions to Help You Forgivep. 199
Chapter 13 Helping Children Forgivep. 217
Chapter 14 Wanting to Be Forgivenp. 245
Chapter 15 Reconcilingp. 263
Referencesp. 277
Indexp. 287