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Mothering your nursing toddler
Bumgarner, Norma Jane.
Personal Author:
Revised edition.
Publication Information:
Schaumburg , IL : La Leche League International, [2000]

Physical Description:
xxvii, 308 pages: illustrations ; 24 cm
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RJ216 .B9 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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The classic handbook for mothers who breastfeed their children past infancy in an updated and expanded edition. Norma Jane Bumgarner puts the experience of nursing an older baby or child in perspective, within the context of the entire mother-child relationship. She cites biological, cultural, and historical evidence in support of extended breastfeeding and shares stories gleaned from thousands of families for whom breastfeeding and natural weaning have been the norm.

Table of Contents

Martha SearsMary k. White
Forewordp. xi
1980 forewordp. xii
Introductionp. xvii
An Investment, Not a Sacrificep. xvii
Breastfeeding Is One of the Basicsp. xxii
Managing Children's Livesp. xxiv
The Real Goal of Parenting--Self-Sufficiencyp. xxv
Part 1 Nursing Your Toddler--Why?
Chapter 1 Why Children Nurse into Toddlerhoodp. 3
Sucking, a Tool for Growingp. 3
Chapter 2 Why Mothers Nurse Their Children into Toddlerhoodp. 7
Seeing a Needp. 7
A Health Plusp. 7
Closenessp. 14
Comfortp. 17
When There Are Older Siblingsp. 18
Other Advantagesp. 19
When Experience Speaksp. 20
Chapter 3 Nursing--Still the Best for Your Childp. 23
Early Weaning--Not Recommended for Childrenp. 23
Nursing and Weight Gainp. 32
Nutrition and the Nursing Toddlerp. 39
Night Nursing--A Factor in Tooth Decay?p. 41
Chapter 4 Nursing--Still the Best for Yourselfp. 49
Mother's Nutritional Needsp. 49
Prolonging Lactational Amenorrheap. 52
Other Physical Effects of Nursingp. 56
Dealing with Your Own Doubtsp. 57
Coping with Family Pressurep. 59
Coping with Pressure from Outsidersp. 62
Fun and Gamesp. 71
Chapter 5 Glimpses into Other Times and Culturesp. 75
Historyp. 75
Using What We Learn from Other Culturesp. 90
Part 2 Nursing Your Toddler--How?
Chapter 6 When Nursing Presents Challengesp. 97
Nursing and Automobile Safetyp. 97
Breast Problemsp. 99
Sensual/Sexual Aspects of Breastfeedingp. 107
Social Service Agencies and the Courtsp. 110
Bitingp. 111
Illness in the Nursing Motherp. 115
Multiplesp. 117
Chapter 7 Pregnancy and Tandem Nursingp. 121
Nursing Twop. 132
Chapter 8 Getting Enough Restp. 151
Night Dutyp. 151
When Needs Clashp. 153
Frequent Night Wakingp. 156
Chapter 9 Marriage and Life with a Nursing Toddlerp. 167
Changes in Sexual Interestp. 167
Re-Staging the Lovemakingp. 172
Chapter 10 Unique Circumstancesp. 175
Employment Away from Homep. 175
Your Adopted Childp. 188
Your Last Childp. 190
Chapter 11 Fathering and the Nursing Toddlerp. 193
A Father's Influencep. 193
The Importance of Fatheringp. 196
Coping with a Mommy's Babyp. 197
Fathering Your Nursing Toddlerp. 199
Husbanding Your Nursing Wifep. 203
Part 3 Nursing Your Toddler Year by Year
Chapter 12 Nursing in the Second Yearp. 209
The Nursing Toddler--A Baby on Wheelsp. 209
Toddler Nursing Strikep. 211
Nursing Leaves One Hand Freep. 212
Getting Through the Peak Time for Criticismp. 216
Chapter 13 Nursing Through the Terrible Twosp. 219
"Terrible Twos"--No Longer Terriblep. 219
Talking About Nursingp. 222
Frequent Nursing in a Two-Year-Oldp. 225
Getting Sick of Nursingp. 230
Chapter 14 Nursing a Three-Year-Oldp. 233
Babyhood's Last Shadowp. 233
Talking about Nursing and about Weaningp. 235
Chapter 15 Nursing Past Fourp. 239
The Specter of Nursing Foreverp. 239
Becoming Part of a Memoryp. 242
Peer Pressurep. 243
Part 4 Weaning
Chapter 16 "Natural" Weaningp. 249
The Child under Threep. 249
After Threep. 252
Resuming Nursing after Weaningp. 253
Spontaneous Weaning in Children over Fourp. 256
Chapter 17 Time-Honored (or Time-Worn?) Approaches to Weaningp. 259
Initiating Weaningp. 259
The "Mother's Week Out" Approach, or Weaning by Abandonmentp. 260
The "Spicy Burrito" Methodp. 263
The Return of Frankenstein's Monsterp. 264
Crying It Outp. 265
Chapter 18 Some Less Dramatic Weaning Techniquesp. 267
Serious Businessp. 267
"Don't Offer, Don't Refuse"p. 268
Distractionp. 269
Substitutionp. 270
Postponementp. 272
Shortening the Nursingsp. 273
Weaning by Contractp. 273
Father and Weaningp. 275
Spot Weaningp. 276
Weaning by Capitulationp. 277
Chapter 19 Making the Best of Nursing or Weaningp. 279
Deciding to Weanp. 279
Weaning in an Emergencyp. 285
Living Short of the Idealp. 286
Effects of Weaning on Motherp. 287
Bibliographyp. 291
Resourcesp. 297
Indexp. 301