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Breaking hearts : the two sides of unrequited love
Baumeister, Roy F.
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New York : Guilford Press, [1992]

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vii, 241 pages ; 24 cm.
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Throughout history, unrequited love has inspired ballads, arias, poetry, drama, and literature. Almost always, however, the tale of the "star-crossed lovers" has been told from the point of view of the heartbroken pursuer. This illuminating new work explores unrequited love from both sides--that of the aspiring and eventually brokenhearted lover, and more unusually, that of the beloved, unwilling rejector. Based on systematically collected first-person accounts, BREAKING HEARTS shows how radically different and often contradictory the two experiences actually are.


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Author Notes

Roy F. Baumeister is the Eppes Eminent Professor of Psychology and head of the social psychology graduate program at Florida State University. He received his Ph.D. in social psychology from Princeton in 1978 and did a postdoctoral fellowship in sociology at the University of California at Berkeley.

Baumeister has worked at Case Western Reserve University, as well as the University of Texas, University of Virginia, Max-Planck-Institute, and the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences.

Baumeister's has received research grants from the National Institutes of Health and from the Templeton Foundation. His research spans the areas of self and identity, self-regulation, interpersonal rejection and the need to belong, sexuality and gender, aggression, self-esteem, meaning, and self-presentation.

He is the author of nearly 400 publications. His books include Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty , The Cultural Animal , Meanings of Life and Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Table of Contents

The Psychology of Heartbreak: an Introduction
Perspectives on Heartbreak
The Emotional Crossfire
The Ups and Downs of Self-Esteem
Guilt, Justification, Morality: Struggling with Right and Wrong
What Actually Happened?
Lessons Learned and Mysteries Glimpsed
Conclusion: The Two Sides of Heartbreak