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Finding your leading man : how to create male-to-male intimacy and make your relationship a blockbuster
Bloch, Jon P.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : St. Martin's Griffin, 2000.
Physical Description:
vi, 312 pages ; 21 cm
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HQ76 .B57 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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For all the gay men who have spent years fruitlessly looking for Mr. Wonderful, who have kissed every toad in the pond without even one turning into Prince Charming, finally there is a roadmap to guide them to a lasting, more fulfilling relationship.Even now, when an ever increasing number of gay men are looking to establish a lasting relationship, studies show that male/male relationships end sooner than either straight or lesbian relationships. But it doesn't have to be that way. Finding Your Leading Man is a guide to help the gay man seeking intimacy and wishing to improve the quality of his relationships. Dr. Jon Bloch first explores the twelve basic personality types that gay men employ to hide their fears and desires, provides practical tips for getting past the intimacy blockers of each type, and details which personality types are most - and least - compatible with each other. Finally, he then explains how to use this knowledge to build a successful long-term intimate relationship.Fun, practical, and easy to use, How to Find Your Leading Man is a clear, enjoyable, and simple guide for the gay man on the hunt for his one and only.

Author Notes

Jon P. Bloch has a Ph.D. from Indiana University. He is a college professor, private consultant, longtime gay activist and adventurer.

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Library Journal Review

Bloch (anthropology and sociology, Southern Connecticut State Univ.; New Spirituality, Self, and Belonging) has come up with 12 different parts that gay men play in order to keep themselves from getting too intimate with their partners. He calls these "OWTAs"DOscar-Winning Typecast Appearances. From "Party Boy" through "Perennial Closet Case," he describes these roles and examines possible OWTA pairings to gauge what might be good about each couple and what might be disastrous. Then, for only about 30 pages, he advises how to transcend these self-proclaimed roles to make relationships work. Strangely, however, the briefness of this section does not mar the book, perhaps because Bloch's writing is amusing and clear. He successfully gets across such points as his argument that gay men have a lot more in common with straight men than they think they do. Recommended for public libraries.DPam Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.