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Getting married when it's not your first time : an etiquette guide and wedding planner
Nettleton, Pamela Hill.
Personal Author:
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Quill, [2001]

Physical Description:
xvi, 313 pages ; 21 cm
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HQ745 .N47 2001 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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For Encore Brides Everywhere, A Smart, Practical
Guide to Making This Wedding Even More Fabulous
and Memorable Than Your First

Any bride who's headed back to the altar faces a paralyzing number of tricky situations ' as well as the challenge of making this second or third (or more!) wedding unique in its own right. This enormously helpful guide, written by an experienced "encore" bride, features a wealth of inspiring suggestions for handling delicate etiquette issues and navigating complex family ties. With humor, warmth, and sensitivity to the many emotional and social issues facing encore brides and stepfamilies, Pamela Hill Nettleton blends her own valuable experiences with guidance from wedding planners, family therapists, couples who have remarried, and the real experts ' stepchildren. Here you'll find great tips on these and other remarriage issues:

Telling your children ' and your ex ' you're engaged Inviting, seating, and dealing with exes, previous in-laws, and stepchildren Involving children in your ceremony Avoiding stepfamily ' and ex family ' wedding day disasters Using your wedding to build a healthy, loving stepfamily

Filled with real-world advice not found in most how-to wedding guides, as well as numerous worksheets to help you stay organized, this handy, easy-to-use guide will help any encore bride create a ceremony that reflects the joys and rewards of saying "I do" all over again.

Author Notes

Pamela Hill Nettleton is a leading expert on remarriage who writes for Bride Again magazine, as well as for Redbook and Minnesota Bride. she is the editorial director of Minnesota Monthly magazine.

Reviews 1

Library Journal Review

With her four marriages and blended family, Nettleton is exceedingly sensitive to the feelings of children affected by remarriage and incorporates more child-friendly ideas than Naylor's title above or making kids (and adult children) feel involved. Featuring lots of personal "how we did it" blurbs from adults and children who've been there, Nettleton also shares tips for handling ex-spouses, informing former in-laws, and easing guests (who may not have experience with remarriage) while reminding couples to have the wedding of their dreams. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Wedding Planning Phone Bookp. xi
Introductionp. xiii
How to Use This Bookp. xv
Chapter 1 Your Biggest Worries About Marrying Againp. 1
Chapter 2 Recovering from the Exes (or from the Loss of Your Spouse)p. 13
Chapter 3 Announcing Your Engagementp. 24
Telling your children
What your children feel and need
Chapter 4 Let the Plans Begin! Determining Your Wedding Style, Finances, Wedding Coordinator, Guest Lists, and Wedding Party Membersp. 50
Chapter 5 I Gave at the First Wedding Gifts, Showers, Registries, and Ringsp. 76
Chapter 6 Your Wedding Site, Celebrant, and Ceremonyp. 93
Wedding site and celebrant interview worksheet
Involving your children
Designing the ceremony
Ceremony planning worksheet
Chapter 7 Invitations, Flowers, Photography, Musicp. 121
Invitation wording
Florist interview worksheet
Floral choices worksheet
Photographer/videographer interview worksheet
Musician interview worksheet
Music choices worksheet
Chapter 8 Reception, Caterers, and Cakep. 163
Reception site worksheet
Caterer interview worksheet
Wedding cake worksheet
Reception site and caterer checklist
Chapter 9 The Week Before Your Wedding Keeping the Kids Happy, the Rehearsal, and the Rehearsal Dinnerp. 208
Chapter 10 Avoiding Fashion Faux Pasp. 219
Finding a gown
Dressing your children
Wedding attire charts
Wedding gown and bridesmaid gown worksheet
Chapter 11 Your Honeymoon and Living Happily Ever Afterp. 252
Honeymoon planning and packing
Should your children go, too?
Honeymoon budget worksheet
Helping children adjust
Stepfamily success
Chapter 12 Your Planning Calendar For Your Wedding, Reception, and Honeymoonp. 281
Everything you need to plan, arrange, and do, in chronological order