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The book of love
Kingma, Daphne Rose.
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Publication Information:
Berkeley, Calif. : Conari Press ; [Place of publication not identified] : Distributed by Publishers Group West, [2001]

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xiii, 173 pages : illustrations ; 19 cm
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BL626.4 .K56 2001 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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For everyone who didn't play by the rules, and those who have evolved beyond them, the author offers a little course in love, advising the reader to be emotionally brave to reach true happiness in a relationship.

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Bestselling author Daphne Rose Kingma culls the best advice from two of her many books, True Love and A Lifetime of Love, to create The Book of Love, with a foreword by M.J. Ryan (Attitudes of Gratitude). Kingma explores the emotional and spiritual components of loving relationships in a series of brief essays. With a distinctive style that is both lyrical and practical, Kingma reminds readers of the importance of loving consciously (e.g., "ask for what you need," "share your transcendent moments"). Supported by a 3-city tour, this greatest-hits collection will doubtless win her new fans. (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

M.J. Ryan
Foreword: A Course in Lovingp. xi
More Lovep. 1
Part I The Emotional Path to Lovep. 5
Section 1 Discovering Your Loving Self, Treasuring Your Belovedp. 7
Love Yourselfp. 8
Say What You Feelp. 10
Ask for What You Needp. 12
Be Emotionally Bravep. 14
Reveal What Makes You Feel Lovedp. 16
Go Easy on Yourselfp. 18
Celebrate the Exceptionalp. 20
Praise the Ordinaryp. 22
Be a Person of Your Wordp. 24
Criticize in Privatep. 26
Do the Unexpectedp. 28
Shower Each Other with Kissesp. 30
Say the Love Wordsp. 32
Ask If You Can Helpp. 34
Listen for the Message Under the Wordsp. 36
Walk a Mile in Your Sweetheart's Shoesp. 38
Say "Thank You"p. 40
Section 2 Cherishing Your Relationshipp. 43
Pay Attention to the Timingp. 44
Put Your Love on a Billboardp. 46
Negotiate the Mundanep. 48
Acknowledge the Hardships Your Circumstances Createp. 50
Keep in Touchp. 52
Take Intimate Timep. 54
Kindle the Romancep. 56
Fight the Good Fightp. 59
Face Your Difficulties Head Onp. 62
Leave the Kitchen Sink in the Kitchenp. 64
Remember the Early Days of Your Lovep. 66
Be Willing to Make the Generous Gesturep. 68
Tie Up Your Emotional Loose Endsp. 70
Play Togetherp. 72
Celebrate with Ceremoniesp. 74
Reveal Your Fearsp. 76
Share Your Dreamsp. 78
Trust One Anotherp. 80
Section 3 Taking Your Love to a Deeper Levelp. 83
Console One Anotherp. 84
Forgive One Anotherp. 86
Acknowledge the Power of Language to Create Realityp. 88
Sanctify Your Relationshipp. 90
Consecrate Your Relationshipp. 92
Hold Each Other in the Lightp. 94
Seek Your Emotional Healingp. 96
Bow to the Mystery of Lovep. 98
Part II The Spiritual Journey of Lovep. 101
Section 4 Creating Depthp. 103
Appreciate the Momentp. 104
Aspire to a Spiritual Relationshipp. 106
Rejoice Togetherp. 108
Open to the Ecstatic Energyp. 110
Discover Sex as Sacred Reunionp. 112
Accept the Glorious Compromises of Lovep. 114
Lie in the Rose Petalsp. 116
Share Your Transcendent Momentsp. 118
Be Available to the Mysteryp. 120
Know One Another Like the Seasonsp. 122
Section 5 Finding Meaningp. 125
Live the Truthp. 126
See Your Beloved as a Spiritual Beingp. 128
Have the Courage to Say "No"p. 130
Accept What Isp. 132
Respect the Opposite Sexp. 134
Tell Your Beloved Your Storyp. 136
Be Conscious of Your Unconsciousp. 138
Seek the Common Groundp. 140
Hold Your Beloved in Special Awarenessp. 142
Move to the Spiritual Levelp. 144
Protect Your Soulp. 146
Section 6 Enhancing Intimacyp. 149
Pursue Beautyp. 150
Be Patient, Gentle, and Kindp. 152
Take Care of Your Bodyp. 154
Practice the Art of Empathyp. 156
Lighten Up!p. 158
Nourish Your Heart and Soulp. 160
Rediscover the Harmonyp. 162
Let Go of It Allp. 164
Offer Your Loving Servicep. 166
Celebrate the "We" of Youp. 168
Be Graceful, Hopeful, and Wisep. 170
Live in the Light of the Spiritp. 172
About the Authorp. 175