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Title:
Beyond breaking the glass : a spiritual guide to your Jewish wedding
Author:
Wiener, Nancy H., 1958-
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Publication Information:
New York : Central Conference of American Rabbis Press, 2001.
Physical Description:
xv, 183 pages ; 22 cm
Language:
English
ISBN:
9780881230970
Format :
Book

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Central Library BM713 .W54 2001 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area
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Summary

Beyond Breaking the Glass is just the book for today's couples. This volume provides you with all you need to plan a meaningful and spiritual celebration. All the options are here -- traditional, contemporary, even rituals and prayers for same-gender couples.


Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Prefacep. xiii
Chapter 1 Mah Nishtanah: What Makes This Different? Liberal Judaism's Distinctive Approachp. 1
An Overviewp. 1
Informed Jewish Decision-Making and Youp. 1
An Evolutionary View of Jewish History and Customsp. 2
Judaism: An Ongoing Conversation--Responding to Ever-Changing Circumstancesp. 5
Reform Jewish Decision-Making: A Model to Considerp. 8
Contemporary Considerationsp. 12
Remarriagep. 12
Same-Sex Marriagep. 13
Chapter 2 A Holy Relationshipp. 15
So, What Does All of This Have to Do With Your Wedding?p. 15
How Have Jewish Weddings Evolved?p. 16
What Innovations Did the Reform Movement Introduce?p. 21
What is the Meaning of Your Kiddushin in the Contemporary Reform Community?p. 23
Chapter 3 A Holy Transformation: Your Kiddushinp. 27
On the Day of Your Kiddushinp. 27
Beginning the Ceremonyp. 28
The Wedding Canopy / Chuppahp. 28
Arriving at the Chuppahp. 33
Circlingp. 36
Betrothal Ceremony / Kiddushin-Erusinp. 39
Welcome / Blessing of Welcomep. 40
Blessing for Winep. 40
Blessing of Betrothal / Birkat Erusinp. 41
The Ketubahp. 43
Reading Your Ketubahp. 45
Signing Your Ketubahp. 46
Marriage Ceremony / Nisuin-Chuppahp. 46
Vows and Ringsp. 46
The Wedding Addressp. 52
Seven Blessings / Sheva B'rachotp. 52
Breaking a Glassp. 55
The Pronouncementp. 58
Additional Blessingsp. 59
Shehecheyanup. 59
The Priestly Blessing / Birkat Kohanimp. 60
Some Pre-Ceremony Ritualsp. 61
Fastingp. 61
Veiling / B'dekenp. 62
Tischp. 65
Time Alone After the Ceremony / Yichudp. 66
Involving Friends and Relatives in the Ceremonyp. 68
Chapter 4 A Holy Context: The Non-Ritual Elementsp. 71
Creating a Holy Contextp. 71
Planning With Intention / Kavanahp. 77
Engaging Clergyp. 78
A Modern Jewish Phenomenonp. 78
Availability and Feesp. 80
Choosing Clergyp. 80
Choosing a Datep. 84
Considering Your Personal Calendarp. 84
Considering the Jewish Calendarp. 85
Considering Conveniencep. 92
Choosing a Locationp. 92
The Wedding Partyp. 95
The Receptionp. 96
Rejoicing and Recognitionp. 96
Tzedakah: Sharing Your Good Fortune With Othersp. 100
Food, Music and Photographic Mementosp. 101
Costp. 105
Clothingp. 106
A Wedding Bookletp. 108
Chapter 5 A Holy Process: Personal and Spiritual Preparationp. 110
Setting Time Aside Before Your Kiddushinp. 110
Gaining Clarity About Your Relationshipp. 111
T'nai-imp. 112
Getting or Making a Ketubahp. 117
Some Preparatory Customsp. 122
Aufrufp. 122
Mikvehp. 125
Hennap. 127
Food and Musicp. 129
Remembering the Pastp. 131
Chapter 6 Interfaith Marriage Ceremoniesp. 133
The Reform Movement's Stancep. 133
Your Shared History of Religious Decision-Makingp. 134
Religious Decision-Making and Your Weddingp. 137
Choosing an Officiantp. 139
Appendicesp. 141
I. Ceremony Checklistp. 141
II. Planning Time Linep. 144
III. Chuppotp. 151
IV. Ketubotp. 153
V. Vow Variationsp. 154
VI. Sheva B'rachot Variationsp. 157
VII. Blessing After Meals / Birkat HaMazon for Weddingsp. 175
VIII. Resources in the Reform Movementp. 183

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