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Rebuilding : when your relationship ends
Fisher, Bruce, 1931-1998.
Personal Author:
Third edition.
Publication Information:
Atascadero, Calif. : Impact Publishers, [2000]

Physical Description:
x, 290 pages : illustrations; 23 cm
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HQ814 .F53 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area
HQ814 .F53 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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This revised and updated guide to relationships is built on more than two decades of research and practice, incorporating feedback and life experiences of many divorced/separated men and women.

Author Notes

Bruce Fisher, Ed.D. (1931-1998) developed the "rebuilding" model of divorce recovery nearly 25 years ago. Founder and director of the Family Relations Learning Center (Boulder, Colorado), he personally trained thousands of individuals and therapists in this approach, enriching the lives of hundreds of thousands worldwide. Popular divorce therapist, author, teacher, clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.
Robert E. Alberti, Ph.D. is a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, Fellow (Psychotherapy) of the American Psychological Association, and clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy His work has received international recognition as the "gold standard" for psychological self-help.

Table of Contents

Virginia M. Satir
Forewordp. ix
Introduction to the Third Editionp. 1
1. The Rebuilding Blocksp. 4
2. Denial "I Can't Believe This is Happening to Me"p. 30
3. Fear "I Have Lots of It"p. 42
4. Adaptation "But It Worked When I Was A Kid!"p. 52
5. Loneliness "I've Never Felt So Alone"p. 66
6. Friendship "Where Has Everybody Gone?"p. 72
7. Guilt/Rejection Dumpers 1, Dumpees 0p. 82
8. Grief "There's This Terrible Feeling of Loss"p. 96
9. Anger "Damn the S.O.B.!"p. 110
10. Letting Go Disentangling is Hard to Dop. 128
11. Self-Worth "Maybe I'm Not So Bad After All!"p. 136
12. Transition "I'm Waking Up and Putting Away my Leftovers"p. 148
13. Openness "I've Been I liding Behind a Mask"p. 166
14. Love "Could Somebody Really Care for Me?"p. 176
15. Trust "My Love-Wound is Beginning to Heal"p. 188
16. Relatedness "Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild"p. 200
17. Sexuality "I'm Interested, but I'm Scared"p. 216
18. Singleness "You Mean It's Okay?"p. 234
19. Purpose "I Have Goals for the Future Now"p. 242
20. Freedom From Chrysalis to Butterflyp. 250
Appendix A Kids Are Tougher Than You Think The Rebuilding Blocks Process for Childrenp. 259
Appendix B The Healing Separation An Alternative to Divorcep. 265
Appendix C Healing Separation Agreement Formp. 275
Bibliographyp. 281
Indexp. 287