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Loving choices : an experience in growing relationships
Fisher, Bruce, 1931-1998.
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Revised second edition.
Publication Information:
Atascadero, CA : Impact Publishers, [2000]

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xiii, 240 pages ; 23 cm.
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Bruce Fisher's work has renewed the lives of hundreds of thousands of divorced men and women around the world. Here's his powerful, personal and practical guide to building new and lasting loving relationships. Loving Choices is packed with insights, exercises, and examples to help you get to know and develop a better relationship with yourself, discover how relationships can be your most valuable teachers, and learn how to turn life's challenges into loving choices. Offers improved self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy for those who've been through painful relationships and divorce.

Author Notes

Bruce Fisher, Ed.D. (1931-1998) was a divorce therapist and author
Nina Hart is a Ph.D. candidate in psychology and a divorce and relationships educator in Boulder, Colorado

Table of Contents

Preface: Is This Book for You?p. xiii
Introductionp. 1
Your Loving Choices Challengep. 5
Section 1 Your Relationship with Yourselfp. 7
1 An Overview of the Loving Choices Processp. 9
Changing Challenges into Loving Choices
2 Feelingsp. 23
A Feeling Is Neither Right nor Wrong, It Just Is
3 The Family Inside Youp. 39
Getting to Know Your Critics, Adaptive-Survivor Parts, Inner Children, and Wise Nurturer
Section 2 Communicating with Yourself and Othersp. 59
4 The Self-Encounterp. 61
Learning to Communicate with Yourself
5 The Repetitive Self-Encounterp. 77
Going Emotionally Deeper into Yourself
6 Conversations with Your Internal Familyp. 83
Assisting You with Inner Peace
7 The Healing Encounterp. 95
Using the Self-Encounter to Communicate with Others
Section 3 Your Relationships with Othersp. 109
8 Family of Originp. 111
Creating Peace with Your Parents and Your Childhood
9 Seeking Your Identityp. 127
Growing from Shell to Rebel to Love with Help from Your Internal Family
10 Your Inner Childrenp. 157
It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood
11 Power Strugglesp. 169
What Am I Growing Through?
12 Boundaries and Ownershipp. 185
What Is You and What Is Not You
13 Relationships Are Your Teachers
Working Together as a Vehicle for Growth
14 Loving Choicesp. 211
Changing Challenges into Loving Choices
Appendix A Breathing and Centering Exercisep. 219
Appendix B Bibliographyp. 225
Indexp. 239