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Making love the way we used to-- or better : secrets to satisfying midlife sexuality
Altman, Alan M.
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Lincolnwood, Ill. : Contemporary Books, [2001]

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xxii, 312 pages ; 24 cm
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This is the definitive guide for reviving sexuality at midlife. Groundbreaking research has shown that sexual problems such as decreased libido and arousal, as well as sexual boredom and dissatisfaction, may have treatable hormonal or other medical causes 90 percent of the time. This reassuring book will help couples uncover their secrets in the bedroom and banish them with the newest medical information and most effective communication techniques.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Can there be great sex after 40? Alan M. Altman and Laurie Ashner (The Estrogen Alternative; etc.) use their knowledge as a physician and a psychotherapist, respectively, to offer new medical treatments and communication techniques for overcoming lost libido and boredom in the bedroom in Making Love the Way We Used to... Or Better: Secrets to Satisfying Midlife Sexuality. With aired-out honesty, Altman and Ashner compassionately state the hushed secrets middle-aged couples keep (e.g., "The little blue pill is causing more problems in our relationship than it solves") and prescribe a plan (e.g., for facing the emotional side of Viagra, it's important to realize that self-esteem is an issue for both men and women) to get things back on track. Agent, Jean Naggar. (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

This collaboration between a gynecologist (Altman) and a psychotherapist/self-help author (Ashner) has resulted in an excellent how-to-correct-problems guide for the 40-60 set. Altman and Ashner prescribe for dry, painful sex, discuss hormonal changes at menopause and at men's midlife, and address negative body image, erection problems, Viagra, and affairsDsexual, intellectual, emotional, and cyber. Their advice is up-to-date, sensitive to individual differences, friendly, well organized, and focused on options relating to medicine/health, including herbal remedies and couples communication. All in all, there are only two noticeable drawbacks: less coverage of nonmedical, technique-based arousal enhancers such as manual and oral stimulation, sex toys, or penile constriction rings and a skimpy resource list. Recommended for its medical coverage, to be supplemented with Lou Paget's excellent technique-based guides, How To Be a Great Lover (LJ 1/99) for women and How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure (LJ 1/00) for men.DMartha Cornog, Philadelphia (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.