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Help your marriage survive the death of a child
Rosenblatt, Paul C.
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Philadelphia : Temple University Press, [2000]

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ix, 184 pages ; 22 cm

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Many parents who have experienced the death of a child struggle with painful and at times overwhelming marital problems. Grieving can create great marital distance, and it can magnify those problems that existed before the child's death. Grieving parents often fear that divorce is a real possibility. This book can help.Based on intensive interviews of 29 couples who experienced the death of a child, this book offers perspectives and advice on common marital problems experienced by bereaved parents. Each couple's problems are unique, but often the problems are connected to couple communication, sexuality, parenting of other children, the use of alcohol and drugs, blaming, and differences in such areas as whether to have another child, how to grieve, how to talk about the child who died, whether to go outside the marriage for support, and what to do with things and spaces that were the child's.Although the book deals with pain and marital distress, it offers a message of hope. Grieving parents can and do get through the hard times, based on respect for differences, mutual understanding, and shared history.

Author Notes

Paul C. Rosenblatt is Morse Alumni Distinguished Teaching Professor of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota. He was the founder of the Grief and Families Focus Group of the National Council on Family Relations. Rosenblatt was the keynote speaker at the First International Congress on Death and Dying, held in London, and has been elected to membership in the prestigious International Work Group on Death, Dying, and Bereavement.

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Library Journal Review

Rosenblatt, founder of the Grief and Families Focus Group of the National Council on Family Relations, has written a sympathetic book focusing on the effects of the loss of a child on a couple's relationship. Rosenblatt's research is based on interviews with 29 couples from different socioeconomic circumstances who lost children of varying ages. Although this book definitely fills a gap in death and dying literature, it is, unfortunately, poorly written, and its repetitious style detracts from its worth. Rosenblatt's advice differs little from couples counseling in general. Perhaps the most helpful chapter deals with strained sexual relationships following the death of a child. In some cases, Rosenblatt tries to copy the vernacular of the interviewees, but rather than enhancing the dialog, it actually disrupts the flow, often making the interviewees sound unintelligent. The book would have benefited from a list of references and/or suggested readings. Because the work is written specifically for couples, it is best suited for public libraries.ÄAnnette Haines, Central Michigan Univ. Libs., Mt. Pleasant (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.