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Marry me! : three professional men reveal to women how to get Mr. Right to pop the question
Gerstman, Bradley.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Cliff Street Books, [2000]

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x, 255 pages ; 22 cm
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Do you ever wonder if your man is really committed to you? Or if he ever will be? Are you curious about his thoughts on marriage but afraid he will never share them? Would you like to tell him that he's "the one" for you but don't know how? Do you worry he won't have time for the career he wants and you? You no longer have to guess, wonder, or worry. Marry Me! reveals how men think about commitment, the fears that keep them cautious, the signs that show they are serious about a relationship, and the steps you should take to get Mr. Right down the aisle.

In the runaway bestseller What Men Want, women got the straight talk about the dating game from three young, attractive, successful professional men. Now, the authors answer the number-one question that their readers asked them: "How do I get my guy to commit?" In Marry Me!, Brad, the married lawyer, Rich, the engaged doctor, and Chris, the single accountant, give women a step-by-step look at the road to commitment -- moving from the first date to the proposal stage to the wedding preparations. Marry Me! tackles one of the most overlooked issues influencing a man's decision to stay -- his career, perhaps the most important factor when it comes to marriage. This book offers invaluable advice on getting men to commit, regardless of what career stage they are in.

Here are just a few of the secrets readers will learn in the pages of Marry Me!

What men think about dating divorced women and single mothers

What's really going on inside a man's head when his partner starts to get serious

How sex changes once you're in a committed relationship -- and how to keep him sexually satisfied over the long haul
The four moves you can make to reassure a man who is about to pop the question
The specific psychological stages a man goes through as he approaches commitment

Frank, funny, and full of invaluable male insight, Marry Me! is a must read if you are looking to jump from the dating game into a fulfilling long-term relationship.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

The lawyer, accountant and doctor, respectively, who penned the 1998 dating guide What Men Want are back with another irresistible title, ready to one-up The Rules once again. Now that two out of three of them have embarked on long-term relationships (one is married and one engaged, while the other is still looking for "Ms. Right"), their thoughts have turned to the specific attributes and behaviors of the women who made two of them consider giving up sex with others. Contending that "most men are addicted to conquering many women" (and presuming that these guys are great catches and that women are dying to marry them), they propose to share the privileged information that women need in order for potential husbands to categorize them as "marriage material" rather than "good for now girls." Encouraging women readers to "think of us as your best guy friends," Gerstman, Pizzo and Seldes offer some vintage 1950s advice: don't push "the relationship talk"; don't propose to him; let him pay for everything in public; and "if it were ever a question of making a sacrifice when it came to work, [let him know] you would be happy to let a career opportunity go to benefit his professional standing." Their advice can also be condescending (women just don't know how hard men work and how important their careers are to them) and even insulting (a chart illustrating the exact number of lovers it is permissible for a woman to have had at various ages), but these three mediagenic guys have proven appeal and an act that's well-groomed for the morning shows. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
1 Inside the Mind and Heart of the Committed Manp. 1
2 Ten Facts About Commitmentp. 9
3 The Number-One Commitment Key: Understanding a Man's Career Pathp. 22
4 Troubleshooting Commitment Obstaclesp. 61
5 Troubleshooting Commitment Obstacles: Part IIp. 110
6 Sex and the Committed Relationshipp. 148
7 The First Big Step: From Casual Dating to Monogamyp. 175
8 How to Get Mr. Right to Pop the Questionp. 187
9 Moving Inp. 203
10 Engagementp. 226
11 The Ugly Truthp. 249
Afterwordp. 256