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On friendship : book for teenagers
Kirberger, Kimberly, 1953-
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Deerfield Beach, FL : Health Communications, 2000.
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xxiii, 383 pages ; 22 cm.
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Collins Library HQ796 .K476 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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This second volume in Kimberly Kirberger's bestselling Teen Love series offers teens a look at friendship from the perspective of their peers. Teens candidly touch on all aspects of friendship--from making and keeping friends to losing friends and growing apart, from learning to be a friend to themselves to discovering that their feelings for a special friend have grown into a deeper form of love.

Because friendships are of paramount importance to teens-and because Kirberger combines life lessons for teens from teens with her own unique brand of compassion and nonjudgmental wisdom-this book is sure to be as much of a hit with readers as Teen Love : On Relationships . In anticipation of the success of On Friendship , its companion journal is scheduled to be released in Spring 2001.

On Friendship is divided into chapters that include Being Yourself; Being Your Own Best Friend; Making Friends; Silver and Gold Friends; Friends and Lovers; Growing Apart; Lessons in Friendship; and Long-Distance Friends.

Teen Love : On Friendship is sure to be the next bestseller in this series, and a must-read for all teens.

Reviews 2

Booklist Review

Gr. 6^-10. Based on the familiar and successful Chicken Soup format, this title, part of the Teen Love series, explores the true meaning of friendship. Kirberger (aided by Mortensen, from MTV's Real World) supplements her general comments about having and being a friend with poems, stories, and essays by teens themselves. Swinging from sad (the "outgrowing" of friendship so typical of adolescence) to sweet (the evolution of friendship to romantic love), this comfortable and comforting book will reassure teens that they are not alone in wanting and needing friends and that they are worthy of friendship as well. --Frances Bradburn

School Library Journal Review

Gr 7 Up-Another entry from the publishers of Teen Ink: Our Voices, Our Visions (2000), and Teen Love: On Relationships (1999, both Health Communications). Chapter titles include: "Being Yourself!," "Being Your Own Best Friend," "What Is Friendship," "Friends in Trouble," "Growing Apart," and "The Best of Friendship." Each chapter contains a narrative definition of the topic; bits and pieces of insight and advice from the authors; quotes from famous people; and original poems, short stories, and personal remembrances written by teenagers. Information about the contributors appears at the end of the volume. The tone of the text, as in most inspirational books, is very emotional, and fans of that genre will not be disappointed. Put this book on your shelves with the hope that teenagers will find something in it that will enrich their lives.-Jana R. Fine, Clearwater Public Library System, FL (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.



A Brother's Love --Colin MortensenSometimes we look in all the wrong places and to all the wrong people to get the support we need. It's taken me a while to learn that friendship can be found closer than you think, even in your own home. Growing up, I knew I always had a great friend in my brother. Besides the biological connection we share, there's the common ground and shared history that has kept my brother and me bonded. My brother and I have an ongoing tradition of never letting the other forget the mishaps that "accidentally" occurred between us during our childhood. To be fair, my "accidents" sometimes involved "accidentally" chasing him around the house with a golf club in my hand, swinging wildly. I preferred the irons (my favorite being the three-iron because you get a fuller swing with a longer club). Although my older brother patented the torturous technique of pinning my arms down with his knees, sitting on my stomach while I was on my back and almost letting his "spittle" drop on my face. If you don't know what spittle is, consider yourself lucky. My favorite memory is the time my brother threw a dart at the dartboard while I happened to be standing in front of it collecting the darts. I remember how he stood there, half-horrified, half-smiling, watching the dart hang from my back, drooping in my bare skin. He also threw a truck at my knees when I was about four years old. To make matters worse, my dad decided he would make it a Kodak moment. Instead of making sure my brother stopped what he was doing, he pulled out the camera and took a picture. Neither of them feels any shame for this. They framed the picture and it hung in our kitchen for my entire childhood. Another time that sticks in my mind is both painful and comforting. One night we were staying at my aunt's house and I was really sad about something. I just remember crying and crying in my brother's arms when we were trying to go to bed. I don't even remember what I was so sad about; the important thing is that I have this memory of knowing he was there for me and feeling comforted by him. In looking back, it is nice to know that two brothers could share that kind of emotion with each other without even thinking about it. Society tells guys not to show emotion, especially with each other, but that didn't stop us. We were so innocent. I love that memory. We had--and still have--a strong bond. Through the years I probably went to my brother too few times when I was having trouble. I wish I had gone to him more often because he has a sweet and caring soul. The times I did confide in him felt very good. My pain or heartache never needed a context or an explanation. That is a feeling I experience so rarely in my life these days--feeling completely understood without even speaking. More often than not, my path feels lonely. But I've realized that discovering my own aloneness is even more of a reason to cherish a sibling I can relate to and confide in. Sometimes that is Excerpted from On Friendship by Kimberly Kirberger, Colin Mortensen All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Rebecca WoolfBecca MustardSilas LesnickJudy NeeKayla Joanna WoodsAlison DankmeyerKimberly KirbergerEmily StarrCrystal DavisNatalie PittsfordJenna ButrenchukAshley Nichole Paintner and Dan "Rudy" MulhausenTannia MillenRebecca HeydonCarol Elaine Faivre-ScottMarisa MarcianoJennifer "Micki" DavisonRachel LittlerJenny BokochKate FlorigMegan Kimm SnookSarah Walcott-SappBecky WelzenbachNatalie BaltzleyTaylor GrampsColin MortensenMarco MarroquinBrittany KusserowKathy PetersonKunal BadlaniChrissy FarwellJennifer FoxRyan BoveDanielle MortagEmilie TaniAmber SlovacekTal VigdersonErin StevensTina LeedsLaurie NuckNatalie AbelAllie BusbyRebecca WoolfJustine LescroartJamie TuckerKimberly KirbergerAllison IceJohn PhamKimberly AngelisCarrie Sue O'MaleyRebecca WoolfJennifer CardenRoger TodaroKim TarantoJaki GrierHeather VanHooseLia GayLaura TanguayZoe GrayeKathy PoncherChristine LeggettCandy RhodesNellie McDowellDanielle GlicksonTracey R. GrimmNoah CampanaJessica DowdyMelissa ColletteAlexandra ZissuPeggy MillerAlice DoddsMollie F. DrabikCarmen JohnsonLindsey AtayaEmily StarrSarah HutsonEmily BoivieSara RonisKatie D'Elena and Lauren FarrellSara GouldTasha BoucherMarie BlouinDanielle GrecoEllary Allis
Acknowledgmentsp. xiii
Introductionp. xxi
1. Being Yourself!
Being Yourself!p. 3
Lost in a Sea of Facesp. 7
What You Do Todayp. 12
A Short Kind of Deathp. 15
Black Fansp. 18
Myselfp. 21
You Want to Be Differentp. 26
Ways to Be Yourself and Love Yourselfp. 29
2. Being Your Own Best Friend
Being Your Own Best Friendp. 33
Picking Up the Piecesp. 36
I Can Walk on Waterp. 40
Love Bloomed for Mep. 44
Enjoying Being Mep. 47
Some Thoughts on "Being Your Own Best Friend"p. 51
3. What Is Friendship?
What Is Friendship?p. 54
Friendship Lives Onp. 56
A Friend Is...p. 61
Friendshipp. 65
Sporadic Huggingp. 67
A Real Friendp. 70
Closing Open Doorsp. 71
Auditionp. 78
4. Challenges in Friendship
Challenges in Friendshipp. 82
So Many Times Beforep. 85
The Road Is Never Too Longp. 92
Through It Allp. 95
Suddenly, I Turned Around and My Best Friend Was Therep. 99
The Rocky Road of Friendshipp. 102
Angelsp. 106
5. Making Friends
Making Friendsp. 114
A Brother's Lovep. 116
Bethany's Friendshipp. 121
Friendship Is a Bondp. 125
Growing Painsp. 128
Forever Friendsp. 134
6. Cliques, Groups and Popularity
Cliques, Groups and Popularityp. 136
Popularp. 139
Staring at Shadowsp. 142
Put on the Shoesp. 145
You Don't Know Mep. 148
But When Nighttime Fallsp. 151
The Greatest Giftp. 153
Torriep. 163
All a Matter of Perspectivep. 167
7. Friends and Lovers
Friends and Loversp. 176
Friends for Lifep. 179
The Smilep. 182
The Arms of a Friendp. 185
Christyp. 188
To Hide in Fearp. 194
Beforep. 198
Once upon a Sometimep. 200
When Love Enters the Picturep. 202
No Timep. 207
Watch Out for the Quiet Onesp. 209
8. Jealousy, Hurt and Betrayal
Jealousy, Hurt and Betrayalp. 216
There All Alongp. 220
Holding On to the Goldp. 227
Foolish Girlp. 231
You Winp. 233
Two of a Kindp. 235
Memories of the Pastp. 241
King of the Mountainp. 245
Rudolfp. 248
Popsicles and Sticky Fingersp. 252
9. Friends in Trouble
Friends in Troublep. 258
A Long Overdue Letterp. 260
My Beautiful Lossp. 264
No Truer Giftp. 268
Please, Don't Leave Me Nowp. 270
The Ribbonp. 274
Thank You, My Friendp. 277
My Secretp. 278
I Can't Feel Elley Anymorep. 284
One Final Lessonp. 287
These Daysp. 293
10. Growing Apart
Growing Apartp. 300
Learning How to Be a True Friendp. 302
Losing Lolap. 308
Once upon a Long Time Agop. 313
Lollipop Daysp. 316
Gold Friendp. 319
Goofy Pictures Will Never Fadep. 321
Losing Friendsp. 325
A Smile So Genuinep. 329
Evolution of a Friendshipp. 332
Even Though I Lost a Friendp. 337
11. The Best of Friendship
The Best of Friendshipp. 340
Letter to a Friendp. 342
Dear Laurenp. 343
Best Friendp. 347
We Chose to Be Friendsp. 350
Alwaysp. 354
To My Best Friendsp. 356
Perfect Memoriesp. 358
Resources for Friends in Troublep. 361
Who Is Kimberly Kirberger?p. 365
Who Is Colin Mortensen?p. 367
Contributorsp. 369
Permissions (continued)p. 379

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