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Boy meets girl : say hello to courtship
Harris, Joshua.
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Sisters, OR : Multnomah, 2000.
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229 pages ; 21 cm
Boy meets girl -- What I've learned since I kissed dating goodbye -- Why dating versus courtship isn't the point -- Getting past a debate over terms and back to what really matters -- Romance and wisdom : a match made in heaven -- Why you need more than just intense feelings -- Tell me how, tell me who, tell me when! -- How God guides you to the right thing at the right time -- The season of courtship -- More than friends, less than lovers -- How to grow and guard in friendship, fellowship and romance -- What to do with your lips -- Practical principles for great communication -- If boys would be men, would girls be ladies? -- How to embrace your god-given role as a man or woman -- Courtship's a community project -- How to gain guidance, support and strength from your church and family -- True love doesn't just wait -- How to be passionately in love and sexually pure -- Before you say "I do" -- When your past comes knocking -- How you can face past sexual sin and experience God's forgiveness -- Are you ready for forever? -- Ten questions to answer before you get engaged -- That day -- Living and loving in light of eternity.
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I Kissed Dating Goodbye shocked the publishing world in 1997 with its meteoric rise to the top of bestseller lists. Teens wanted more than dating "rules" -- they wanted an intentional, God-pleasing game plan. In this dynamic sequel, newlyweds Joshua and Shannon Harris deliver an inspiring and practical illustration of how this healthy, joyous alternative to recreational dating -- biblical courtship -- worked for them. Boy Meets Girl helps readers understand how to go about pursuing the possibility of marriage with someone they may be serious about. It's the natural follow-up to the author's blockbuster book on teen dating!

Author Notes

Joshua Harris is a bestselling author and the senior pastor of Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland

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Publisher's Weekly Review

In 1997, Harris's I Kissed Dating Goodbye became a phenomenon both in the publishing world and the Christian singles scene. Dating, Harris suggested, was an ungodly and unbiblical activity that Christians should reject in favor of a more old-fashioned, marriage-driven courtship. In this follow-up book, Harris guides Christians who are eager to say "I do" through the maze of finding a mate. His practical tips are set against the autobiographical backdrop of his own successful courtship with Shannon, now his wife of two years. Harris's words of wisdom aren't terribly innovative; they are the bread and butter of Christian relationship books claiming that good communication, sexual abstinence, friendship and fellowship are at least as important as romance. But lack of originality is the least of this book's problems. Harris's self-conscious attempts to be cute quickly grow tiresome (the Courtship Cop who "pulls over" a couple thinking about marriage too early in their relationship is only the most glaring example). Also, many readers who would otherwise find Harris's message compelling may be put off by the strict "God-given" gender roles he lauds in chapter 6: a man should initiate everything in a relationship, while "ladies" are supposed to "make room for him to lead." This slim sequel will no doubt delight Harris's thousands of devoted fans, but its banalities won't win any new devotees. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

For the Boy and introductionp. 7
Part 1 Rethinking Romance
1 What I've Learned Since I Kissed Dating Goodbye: From Waiting to Knowing-A Personal Storyp. 13
2 Rediscovering Courtship: A Return to Purposeful Romancep. 24
3 Romance and Wisdom: A Match Made in Heaven: Why You Need More than Just Intense Feelingsp. 33
4 Tell Me How, Tell Me Who, Tell Me When!: How God Guides You to the Right Thing at the Right Timep. 54
Part 2 The Season of Courtship
5 More than Friends, Less than Lovers: How to Grow and Guard in Friendship, Fellowship, and Romancep. 73
6 What to Do with Your Lips: Practical Principles for Great Communicationp. 87
7 If Boys Would Be Men, Would Girls Be Ladies?: How to Embrace Your God-Given Role As a Man or Womanp. 103
8 Courtship Is a Community Project: How to Gain Guidance, Support, and Strength from Your Church and Familyp. 121
9 True Love Doesn't Just Wait: How to Be Passionately in Love and Sexually Purep. 140
Part 3 Before You Say "I Do"
10 When Your Past Comes Knocking: How You Can Face Past Sexual Sin and Experience God's Forgivenessp. 171
11 Are You Ready for Forever?: Ten Questions to Answer Before You Get Engagedp. 196
12 That Day: Living and Loving in Light of Eternityp. 210
Courtship Conversations: Eight Great Datesp. 223
Notesp. 241
Acknowledgmentsp. 245