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Boy meets girl : say hello to courtship
Harris, Joshua.
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Sisters, OR : Multnomah, 2000.
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229 pages ; 21 cm
Boy meets girl -- What I've learned since I kissed dating goodbye -- Why dating versus courtship isn't the point -- Getting past a debate over terms and back to what really matters -- Romance and wisdom : a match made in heaven -- Why you need more than just intense feelings -- Tell me how, tell me who, tell me when! -- How God guides you to the right thing at the right time -- The season of courtship -- More than friends, less than lovers -- How to grow and guard in friendship, fellowship and romance -- What to do with your lips -- Practical principles for great communication -- If boys would be men, would girls be ladies? -- How to embrace your god-given role as a man or woman -- Courtship's a community project -- How to gain guidance, support and strength from your church and family -- True love doesn't just wait -- How to be passionately in love and sexually pure -- Before you say "I do" -- When your past comes knocking -- How you can face past sexual sin and experience God's forgiveness -- Are you ready for forever? -- Ten questions to answer before you get engaged -- That day -- Living and loving in light of eternity.
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Purpose Driven Romance

The last thing singles want is more rules. But if you're looking for an intentional, God-pleasing game plan for finding a future spouse, Joshua Harris delivers an appealing one. A compelling new foreword, an all-new "8 Great Courtship Conversations" section, and updated material throughout makes this five-year revision of the original Boy Meets Girl a must-have! Harris illustrates how biblical courtship--a healthy, joyous alternative to recreational dating--worked for him and his wife. Boy Meets Girl presents an inspiring, practical example for readers wanting to pursue the possibility of marriage with someone they may be serious about.

Are you ready for "romance with purpose"?

If you're fed up with self-centered relationships that end in disillusionment, it's time to rethink romance. Finding the loving, committed relationship you want shouldn't mean throwing away your hopes, your integrity, or your heart.

In Boy Meets Girl , Joshua Harris --the guy who kissed dating goodbye--makes the case for courtship. As old-fashioned as it might sound, courtship is what modern day relationships desperately need. Think of it as romance chaperoned by wisdom, cared for by community, and directed by God's Word.

Filled with inspiring stories from men and women who have rediscovered courtship, Boy Meets Girl is honest, romantic, and refreshingly biblical. Keep God at the center of your relationship as you discover how to:

nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;*nbsp;Set a clear course for your romance
nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;*nbsp;Get closer without compromise
nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;*nbsp;Find support in a caring community
nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;*nbsp;Deal with past sexual sin
nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;*nbsp;Make the right decisions about your future

New! Courtship Conversations
Eight ideas for great dates that will help grow and guide your relationship.

Story Behind the Book

"I wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye to challenge singles to drop the worldly approach to serial dating and reconsider the way they pursued romance in light of God's Word. Since then, I've received letters asking questions like, So, what comes between friendship and marriage? and, How can you know when you are ready for marriage? Boy Meets Girl answers those questions. Now as a happily married man I can look back on my courtship with Shannon and see from personal experience that God is faithful. If you trust Him enough to wait on romance in dating, He will lovingly guide you as you pursue it in courtship...right to that wonderful moment when you kneel together at the altar." -- Joshua Harris

Author Notes

Joshua Harris is a bestselling author and the senior pastor of Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland

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Publisher's Weekly Review

In 1997, Harris's I Kissed Dating Goodbye became a phenomenon both in the publishing world and the Christian singles scene. Dating, Harris suggested, was an ungodly and unbiblical activity that Christians should reject in favor of a more old-fashioned, marriage-driven courtship. In this follow-up book, Harris guides Christians who are eager to say "I do" through the maze of finding a mate. His practical tips are set against the autobiographical backdrop of his own successful courtship with Shannon, now his wife of two years. Harris's words of wisdom aren't terribly innovative; they are the bread and butter of Christian relationship books claiming that good communication, sexual abstinence, friendship and fellowship are at least as important as romance. But lack of originality is the least of this book's problems. Harris's self-conscious attempts to be cute quickly grow tiresome (the Courtship Cop who "pulls over" a couple thinking about marriage too early in their relationship is only the most glaring example). Also, many readers who would otherwise find Harris's message compelling may be put off by the strict "God-given" gender roles he lauds in chapter 6: a man should initiate everything in a relationship, while "ladies" are supposed to "make room for him to lead." This slim sequel will no doubt delight Harris's thousands of devoted fans, but its banalities won't win any new devotees. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

For the Boy and introductionp. 7
Part 1 Rethinking Romance
1 What I've Learned Since I Kissed Dating Goodbye: From Waiting to Knowing-A Personal Storyp. 13
2 Rediscovering Courtship: A Return to Purposeful Romancep. 24
3 Romance and Wisdom: A Match Made in Heaven: Why You Need More than Just Intense Feelingsp. 33
4 Tell Me How, Tell Me Who, Tell Me When!: How God Guides You to the Right Thing at the Right Timep. 54
Part 2 The Season of Courtship
5 More than Friends, Less than Lovers: How to Grow and Guard in Friendship, Fellowship, and Romancep. 73
6 What to Do with Your Lips: Practical Principles for Great Communicationp. 87
7 If Boys Would Be Men, Would Girls Be Ladies?: How to Embrace Your God-Given Role As a Man or Womanp. 103
8 Courtship Is a Community Project: How to Gain Guidance, Support, and Strength from Your Church and Familyp. 121
9 True Love Doesn't Just Wait: How to Be Passionately in Love and Sexually Purep. 140
Part 3 Before You Say "I Do"
10 When Your Past Comes Knocking: How You Can Face Past Sexual Sin and Experience God's Forgivenessp. 171
11 Are You Ready for Forever?: Ten Questions to Answer Before You Get Engagedp. 196
12 That Day: Living and Loving in Light of Eternityp. 210
Courtship Conversations: Eight Great Datesp. 223
Notesp. 241
Acknowledgmentsp. 245