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Parenthood by proxy don't have them if you won't raise them
Schlessinger, Laura.
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Publication Information:
New York : Harper Audio : HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., [2000]

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2 audio discs (2 hrs., 20 min.) : digital ; 4 3/4 in.
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Compact disc.
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Audiobook on CD


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HQ755.8 .S342 2000D CD.2 Adult Audiobook on CD Audiobooks

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Children's welfare is the driving force behind Dr. Laura Schlessinger's mission. A devoted mother to her son, Deryk, she identifies herself as "her kid's mom" because that's her most important job.

Never one to shy away from tough truths, Dr. Laura marshalls compelling evidence for the widespread neglect of America's children and convincingly condemns the numerous rationalizations to excuse it. Parents, special interest groups, and professionals in education and psychology all contribute to a dangerous trend that places adult fulfillment above obligation to children. Parenthood by Proxy addresses the serious causes and effects of this national crisis, among them the high rate of divorce, serial marriages, single parenting, the premature sexualization of children, dual-career families, disdain for religion, the redefinition of immoral behavior as lifestyle choices, and societal intolerance for the concept of judgment.

In Parenthood by Proxy , Dr. Laura exhorts parents to make their own children their top priority and, if necessary, to change their lives to do so. In her inimitable, straight-shooting style, Dr. Laura entreats parents to involve themselves in their children's hearts, minds, and souls, to cherish and protect them, and to commit to the essential task of teaching them right from wrong. She acknowledges that parents no longer get much support from neighbors or public and private institutions, but she urges mothers and fathers to work even harder to counteract the prevailing culture of selfishness and irresponsibility.

Parenthood by Proxy covers all aspects of parenting, from childbearing to discipline, from multiple families to being role models. Dr. Laura also tackles such cultural and societal concerns as abortion, modern sexuality, drug and alcohol use, violence, discipline, and a child's right to privacy.

Parenthood by Proxy is a passionate and provocative summation of the perils of parenting and a road map to safety for America's families.

Author Notes

Dr. Laura Schlessinger holds a post doctoral certification in marriage, family and child therapy and is licensed by the state of California as a marriage and family therapist. She is the author of best-selling children's books, Why Do You Love Me?, But I Waaannt It!, Growing Up Is Hard and best-selling adult books, Ten Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships, Ten Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids, The Ten Commandments, How Could You Do That? The Abdication of Character, Courage and Conscience, Ten Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives, and Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives.

Dr. Laura is a leading radio talk show host whose weekday show is syndicated nationwide to approximately 12 million listeners. She is also the president and founder of the Dr. Laura Schlessinger Foundation, devoted to abused and neglected kids through its unique outreach of My Stuff Bags. She lives with her husband, Dr. Lew Bishop, and their son, Deryk, in southern California. (Publisher Provided) Laura Schlessinger was born in Brooklyn, New York on January 16, 1947. She received a Bachelor's degree from the State University of New York at Stony Brook, a Ph.D. in Physiology from Columbia University, and a post-doctoral certification in Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling from the University of Southern California. She has lectured at several universities including the University of Southern California and Pepperdine University. She is a talk radio host, who offers no-nonsense advice to callers every day on her nationally-syndicated radio show The Dr. Laura Program. She is also the author of over fifteen books for children and adults including Why Do You Love Me?, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives, and In Praise of Stay-At-Home Moms. She has received numerous honors and awards including an award from the Office of the Secretary of Defense for her Exceptional Public Service and the National Association of Broadcasters' Marconi Award for Network/Syndicated Personality.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Reviews 2

Booklist Review

Dr. Laura is back, this time offering her views on child rearing. One of her chief tenets is the absolute insistence on the necessity of one parent, preferably the mother, remaining home with a child or children. Knowing that some might find her culpable on this score, the radio psychologist/author/soon-to-be talk-show host begins the book by putting her own career/child-care decisions in the best possible light. The rest of the text reads like a compilation of someone's Lexus Nexus search on parenting. Seemingly every possible report, magazine article, or anecdote in favor of Dr. Laura's position is quoted in a parade of repetitive source material. This mind-numbing display is interspersed with letters and re-creations of radio phone-ins from parents who do stupid stuff. Along with the very legitimate questions she raises about parental responsibility and the decline of family life, Dr. Laura is also here to tell readers about the existence of a concentrated campaign to undermine the American family. Among the campaigners: homosexuals who want access to child raising, feminist activists, the day-care industry, baby boomers, supporters of political correctness, and all "liberated men." There's also the requisite knock at the American Library Association. One question left hanging: How could baby boomers, raised in those halcyon days of Mom at home and dinner on the table, have turned out to be such rotten parents themselves? --Ilene Cooper

Library Journal Review

Sociologist and controversial radio talk show host "Dr. Laura" sends a clear message: parenting should be limited to traditional families of two parents, one of whom stays home with the children. Divorced or single people, homosexuals, and couples who both work should not have children; those who do are self-centered and contribute to the moral decline of society. Daycare users and providers, psychologists, abortion rights supporters, fertility specialists, and the American Library Association are just a few other targets of Dr. Laura's anger (and her epilog informs readers that her book is indeed written out of anger toward those who disagree with her). While many public libraries will want to buy this book to provide a different viewpoint and because Dr. Laura is well known, this reviewer does not think that Parenthood by Proxy has any place in any caring and considerate dialog on child rearing. Such a book promotes a climate of intolerance and hate. To belittle and negate the efforts of many caring parents from a wide variety of lifestyles who are raising moral, happy, and achieving children does not contribute to our understanding of parenthood. Not recommended.ÄKay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.