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Coming out : a handbook for men
Outland, Orland.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
Los Angeles : Alyson Books, 2000.
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xi, 195 pages ; 22 cm
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HQ76.2.U5 O983 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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This is a practical and informative guide aimed at gay men coming out in the often confusing and contradictory gay world of the 21st century. Although coming out is in some ways now easier than ever before, it is also true that gay culture has never been so rife with potential pitfalls. Opening with the first step of outing oneself to family and friends, the book lays out a comprehensive road map for navigating the exciting but complicated period of life in a satisfying and successful manner.

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Library Journal Review

In this updated version of Wes Muchmore and William Henson's Coming Out Right (Alyson, 1991), Outland (The Principles; Every Man for Himself) gives sensible, nonjudgmental, if somewhat glib advice about both the actual coming-out process and negotiating life in the gay community. Like a smart, witty friend, the author guides the reader through the terrain of gay culture, from the initial visit to a gay bar, to developing a support network, to a "definitive gay glossary" of past and present argot. Throughout, Outland strongly advocates safe sex but does not shy away from frank discussion of some of the less savory aspects of gay life, including drugs, employment in the sex industry, and scam artists. While lacking the probity and depth of more directive guides, such as Michelangelo Signorile's Outing Yourself (LJ 6/15/95) or Brian McNaught's Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do? (LJ 5/1/97), this book has a chatty, informal validity all its own and is bound to be a popular item. Recommended for gay studies collections as well as large public libraries.DRichard J. Violette, Special Libs. Cataloguing, Victoria, BC (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. ix
Part 1 Coming Outp. 1
Chapter 1 Telling Yourself; Telling Othersp. 3
Chapter 2 Your First Gay Social Experiencep. 17
Chapter 3 Getting Laidp. 25
Chapter 4 Going Outp. 37
Chapter 5 Drugsp. 47
Chapter 6 Sex--Here, There, Everywherep. 61
Chapter 7 The Sex Industryp. 71
Chapter 8 Sexually Transmitted Diseasesp. 83
Part 2 Being Outp. 95
Chapter 9 Your First Relationshipp. 97
Chapter 10 Gay Subculturesp. 101
Chapter 11 Too Young, Too Old, Too Ethnicp. 115
Chapter 12 Cops, Fag Bashers, and Other Dangersp. 123
Chapter 13 Friends and Roommatesp. 131
Chapter 14 Lovers (and Ex-Lovers)p. 141
Chapter 15 Getting Scammedp. 149
Chapter 16 Organizing Your Support Systemp. 157
Chapter 17 In Conclusionp. 163
Appendix 1 The Definitive Gay Glossaryp. 165
Appendix 2 The Hankie Codep. 194