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A friend in need-- : how to help when times are tough
Gordon, Sol, 1923-2008.
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Publication Information:
Amherst, N.Y. : Prometheus Books, [2000]

Physical Description:
xvi, 221 pages ; 19 cm
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BF575.F66 G665 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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When our friends are going through difficult times, they need us most, but it's at just such times that many people are at a loss about what to say or do. This book helps you become better friends, and teaches you how to deal with the serious problems of those you care most about. It also shows us how to understand the problems our friends face.

Author Notes

Sol Gordon, Ph.D., is a lecturer, educator, professor emeritus of child and family studies at Syracuse University, and the founding director of the university's Institute for Family Research and Education

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School Library Journal Review

Adult/High School-This is "a primer/ workbook for friendship, using anecdotal evidence as much as hands-on advice to convey the meaning and responsibilities of these relationships." Writing in a warm, informal tone, the author uses personal experiences and related anecdotes to illustrate behaviors conducive to strong friendships. The book is primarily about "When Not to Mind Your Own Business." Gordon explores how to be a good friend to someone who is involved in violent or abusive situations, has an addiction, has a family member who is disabled, is suffering from depression and suicidal behaviors, loses a loved one, or is facing a terminal illness. He writes of the most difficult situation of all-when a suffering friend does things that are alienating. He repeatedly stresses the importance of becoming as informed as possible about a friend's medical or psychological condition. A section of general resources includes publications as well as helpful organizations. A valuable book.-Cynthia J. Rieben, W. T. Woodson High School, Fairfax, VA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. xi
Part I What Friendship Is All About
1 The Art of Friendshipp. 3
2 Taking Responsibility in Friendshipsp. 20
3 Barriers to Good Friendshipsp. 31
4 Reconciliations and Reunionsp. 46
5 Friends in Difficult Situationsp. 50
Part II When Not to Mind Your Own Business
6 Violent and Abusive Situationsp. 67
7 Good Friends Who Have Problem Childrenp. 78
8 Addicted Friends: Interventionp. 91
9 Families with a Disabled Child or Adultp. 101
10 Depression and Suicidep. 117
11 Bereaved Parents: When Hope Turns into Tragedyp. 127
12 Living with AIDSp. 138
13 Facing Terminal Illnessp. 145
Part III When Caring Is Most Challenging
14 Support for a Grieving Friendp. 159
15 Responding to an Overwhelmed Friendp. 174
Epiloguep. 182
Community Resourcesp. 188
General Resourcesp. 194