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When your lover leaves you : six stages to recovery and growth
Whiteside, Richard G.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : St. Martin's Press, 2000.
Physical Description:
x, 99 pages ; 19 cm
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HQ801 .W67 2000 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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The cure for the common heartache.Whether you're seething with anger because you've caught your lover in bed with someone else, or you're tormented with despair because you feel devastated and alone, When Your Lover Leaves You walks you through the emotional stages of a break-up and leads you on the road to recovery. Full of reassuring advice written in the tone of a trusted friend, it offers concrete strategies for each stage, including:-Don't force yourself to sleep if you can't-listen to some soothing music, take a bath, write in a journal, or try some relaxation exercises.-Channel your impulses-volunteer for a charity mailing instead of writing to your ex-lover.-Vent your anger-take a kickboxing class at the gym.-Pamper yourself-treat yourself to a facial, massage, or new haircut.-Set new goals-evaluate what you hope to accomplish in your personal and professional life.So if you're ready to change your focus from accommodating your lover to pleasing yourself, When Your Lover Leaves You is the perfect companion to help you let go of the past and plan for the future.

Author Notes

Richard G. Whiteside , family therapist, and Frances E. Steinberg, psychologist, have worked with distressed lovers for the past 25 years. They currently live in Auckland, New Zealand where they direct training programs, collaborate on books, and provide therapy.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introductionp. 1
1. Shockp. 24
2. Hopep. 38
3. Angerp. 57
4. Despairp. 67
5. Indifferencep. 77
6. Growthp. 86
Afterwordp. 93