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Relationship rescue : a seven-step strategy for reconnecting with your partner
McGraw, Phillip C., 1950-
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First edition.
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New York : Hyperion, [2000]

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x, 254 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm
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With Life Strategies, Phil McGraw helped hundreds of thousands of people take responsibility for their own actions and break free from self-destructive habits and situations. Now he turns his honest, unflinching eye toward relationshipsdiagnosing them, repairing them, and maintaining them. This hands-on book is for people who realize their relationship is in trouble, but who dont want to give up on it. In addition, it includes questionnaires, profiles, and checklists that will keep readers focused and aware of their feelings. Phil McGraw has already established himself as someone whom readers can turn to for direct, tell-it-like-it-is help in their own lives. Now he offers readers the chance for further happiness through meaningful, fulfilling relationships that work. Dr. McGraw helps get relationships back on track with a controversial explosion of the myths of conventional relationship thinking and clear action-oriented steps for reconnecting partners.

Author Notes

Phillip C. McGraw was born in Vinita, Oklahoma, on September 1, 1950. In 1968, he was awarded a football scholarship to the University of Tulsa, but he later transferred to Midwestern State University where he received a Bachelor of Arts degree in psychology. He also received a Master of Arts in experimental psychology in 1976, and a Doctor of Philosophy in clinical psychology in 1979 from the University of North Texas.

McGraw has had twenty-five years of experience in psychology and human functioning. He is an author and co-founder of Courtroom Sciences, Inc., the world's leading litigation consulting firm. His books include Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner; Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside-Out; and Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World.

He was The Oprah Winfrey Show's resident expert on human behavior and currently writes a monthly column in O, The Oprah Magazine.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Reviews 2

Publisher's Weekly Review

Oprah's relationship expert and the author of the hugely popular Life Strategies, McGraw offers a challenge to readers in troubled marriages. (Though he refers to "relationships," his comments about the roles of men and women make it obvious that McGraw has mostly traditional marriages in mind.) With typical frankness, the Dallas psychologist declares that the underlying reason that "your relationship is in trouble [is] because you set it up that way." Traditional relationship counseling doesn't work, McGraw says, so he dares readers to follow his multistep plan for "reconnecting," which demands honest exploration, through exhaustive self-tests and questionnaires designed to define each partner's needs and expectations. The last step of McGraw's program is probably the most difficult and rewarding: 14 days of structured reconnection exercises in which the partners share their deepest feelings. By participating with the required level of commitment, candor and seriousness, couples would seem to guarantee enhancing their relationships. Despite the strengths of his program, McGraw's compelling television presence doesn't translate well to the page. He reminds readers so often that the "reconnecting" process will not be easy or fun that at times he seems more hectoring than persuasive--not that this is likely to matter to his viewers and fans. One-day laydown on February 8; television and radio satellite tours. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

McGraw does a wonderful job of examining practical steps that can help to rescue floundering intimate relationships. From the beginning, he acknowledges that only one partner may be inspired to take the action he recommends. He says the core causes of relationship collapse include believing in relationship myths; failing to take personal responsibility for the relationship; and ignoring one's own "core consciousness" (i.e., that which is integral to one's own belief systems). He then helps the listener learn how these blocks can be identified and overcome. McGraw's acknowledged belief in a "Higher Power" might also bring comfort to users who desire a religious basis for healing. The advice itself, however, is mainstream, obviously based on McGraw's broad experience as a counselor, and will almost certainly inspire someone looking for help for a relationship in crisis. Librarians acquiring this program must be aware of limitations that may make it a secondary purchase. First, this tape is meant to be used over an extended period of time. Second, a "relationship test booklet" is included in the packageÄa small pamphlet that will soon be lost in most libraries. Finally, the author indicates that use of this book alone is enough to save a failing relationship. Most patrons, after reviewing the audiobook, will decide if they want to have their own copy or not. In the meantime, it may offer hope to anyone struggling to make a relationship work.ÄKathleen Sullivan, Phoenix P.L. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Prologue: Get Real: Reconnecting with Your Corep. 1
1 It's Your Time; It's Your Turnp. 5
2 Defining the Problemp. 20
3 Blowing Up the Mythsp. 39
4 Eliminating Your Bad Spiritp. 64
5 Reclaiming Your Core: The Personal Relationship Valuesp. 94
7 The Formula for Successp. 123
8 Reconnecting with Your Partnerp. 162
8 Fourteen Days of Loving with Honestyp. 180
9 Red Alert: Relationships Are Managed, Not Curedp. 210
10 The Doctor Is "In"p. 225
Conclusion: A Personal Letter from Me to Youp. 250
Appendixp. 255