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Healing the pain of pet loss : letters in memoriam
Smith, Kymberly.
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Philadelphia, PA : Charles Press, [1998]

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xiv, 190 pages ; 22 cm
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SF411.47 .M9 1998 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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While as a society, we clearly recognize and try to validate the grief that is felt when 7 loved person dies, many of us do not feel the same way about grieving over the loss of an animal friend. When a person dies, we approach the bereaved with ultimate delicacy and care. We send condolence cards, we attend the funeral and we try to show our compassion and understanding: "I'm so sorry. We will do all that we can to help and support you". When a pet dies, however, a person's grief is too often met by dismissal and even ridicule: "Oh come on, I know it's sad, but he was only a dog" and "It's not the end of the world! You can always get another cat".

Devastated by the loss of her cat and deeply disturbed by the callous way people reacted to her grief Kymberly Smith thought she might be able to find some advice in books that would help her cope with her loss. To her surprise and frustration, none of the books helped her at all. They were mostly written by psychologists and were too "clinical" in their approach. They described stages of loss and different forms of grief, but this is not the kind of information that really helps a person heal -- it certainly didn't help her.

That's when Kymberly realized that a different kind of book on healing from the pain of pet loss was sorely needed, one that teed the ideas and solutions, not of detached "experts", but of people who had themselves lost a beloved animal companion -- "real people" who could give honest advice and practical guidance on how to cope with this loss. To do this, Kymberly issued a nationwide request for personal stories of losing a pet. When she read through the hundreds of letters she received, she immediately realizedthat the letters had the most unusual and remarkable healing powers. Reading them comforted her and gave her the kind of understanding and support that only people who have actually "been there" can give, She also realized that