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In the royal manner : expert advice on etiquette and entertaining from the former butler to Diana, Princess of Wales
Burrell, Paul, 1958-
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Publication Information:
New York : Warner Books, [1999]

Physical Description:
144 pages : color photographs, plans, color portraits ; 26 cm
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Includes index.
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TX731 .B82 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Paul Burrell has worked in the service of the royal family for 22 years, working his way up from footman to the Queen, to Princess Diana's personal butler at both Highgrove and Kensington Palace. Now, for the first time ever, he shares the secrets of royal entertaining with the general public. Burrell covers all aspects of throwing the perfect party or dinner party for all occasions: invitations, place settings, menus, recipes, napkin folds, and the art of giving a toast. Featuring the rules of etiquette that set the standard at Buckingham Palace, color photographs of proper place settings and decorations, and favorite recipes of the royals, this is the comprehensive bible of entertaining at home.

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Paul Burrell was born in Grassmoor, England, in 1958. He befriended Princess Diana in 1980 before her engagement to Prince Charles. At her request, he became butler at Highgrove in 1988, then moved to Kensington Palace with Diana in 1996 when the couple separated. He was the only non-family member at her funeral and burial at Althorp, her family home. Shortly after the death of the Princess of Wales, the Queen presented Paul Burrell with the Royal Victoria Medal (her special decoration) in recognition of his services to the Princess. Mr. Burrell was the public fund-raiser for the Diana, Princess of Wales Memorial Fund until 1998. He lives in England with his wife and two sons.

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Introduction Style is not the exclusive preserve of the rich and famous. Style can be achieved by anyone and is often most effective when simply executed. We all entertain; it could be a simple dinner at home, or a family gathering at Christmas, a christening or a wedding, or even a children's party. Whether we entertain on a simple level or with lavish flare depends on our individual style and how we feel we want to show our hospitality, and also on the strength of our budget. So it is very important to plan your entertaining properly, and I will take you through the steps to ensure that your party is a success. First, have a clear idea of the kind of event you want to hold, and who you want to invite. This is the best way of working out how much it is going to cost and, of course, the numbers you will be catering for. The budget is obviously of great consideration to us all. Once you have decided on the format of your party, you are then ready to send out the invitations. Make sure you clearly state the venue address, the time of arrival and any dress code (if appropriate). Printed invitations are necessary for formal events, but for a casual "at home" or a family get together a simple phone call will suffice. Always check on the dress code--there is nothing more embarrassing than arriving at a function in the wrong clothes. Remember that the names printed on the invitation are the only people invited, so partners and children should be indicated if you intend them to come along as well. When planning your invitations be sure to include an RSVP (respondez s'il vous plait- -please reply) and a contact address or telephone number so that you guest can indicate, as soon as possible, whether they will be able to attend. It is polite to reply to an invitation within a week. As far as timing is concerned, lunch is usually prompt at 1.00pm, in order to allow your guests time for other appointments later in the day. Dinner, although a formal meal, is often more relaxed, and is usually served between 8.00 and 9.00pm. It is polite and customary to invite your guests for a drink before dinner, and you need to specify this on the invitation i.e. 8.00 for 8.30pm or 8.30 for 9.00pm. Pre-dinner drinks and cocktails are an excellent opportunity for your guests to meet, relax and get to know each other, especially if they have never met. Choosing the right mix of people is an important factor in making your party a success. Choose personalities who might mix well; there is nothing more boring than a room full of people who have little in common. With these things covered, it is time to plan the menu; remember to take into account any special dietary requirements and compile a list of drinks which you wish to serve during the course of your event. You should now check that you have enough china, glass, cutlery and serving utensils. I have compiled the following information which will to take you from choosing china, glass and tableware, to setting the table, and then on to planning your menu and drinks, and choosing flowers for decorating your home and table. Remember that presentation is of the utmost importance. Copyright © 1999 Paul Burrell. All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

Forewordp. 6
Introductionp. 8
Planning a Dinner Partyp. 9
Selecting the Drinksp. 17
Mind Your Manners. Pleasep. 20
Springp. 27
Romantic Dinner for Twop. 30
Spring Brunchp. 36
Easter Teap. 44
Spring Family Lunchp. 52
Summerp. 57
A Bug's Partyp. 60
Picnicp. 72
A Summer Weddingp. 78
Autumnp. 89
Victorian Dinnerp. 92
Highland High Teap. 100
Family Supperp. 108
Winterp. 117
Christmas Lunchp. 122
New Year's Drinks and Canape Partyp. 132
Cocktailsp. 140
Acknowledgementsp. 142
Indexp. 143