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Feeling at home : defining who you are and how you want to live
Stoddard, Alexandra.
Personal Author:
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : W. Morrow and Co., [1999]

Physical Description:
xvii, 297 pages, 8 unnumbered pages of plates : color illustrations ; 25 cm
General Note:
Includes index.
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BF637.C5 S714 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks
BF637.C5 S714 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Most decorating books omit the most important element of the home: you. Does your home reflect who you really are? Feeling at Home focuses on this most essential aspect of decorating: creating a home that is truly your emotional center. Every room and object should answer your needs and make you feel more human and whole. Alexandra Stoddard gently leads us through a process of self-attunement and self-expression in which we discover not only our practical needs, but also our yearnings--perhaps a sunny spot for reading; a colorful nook for ironing; an inviting place for paperwork. She urges us to question the rules and to never "pre-compromise" by talking ourselves out of our true desires. With imaginative and practical examples from her personal and professional life, she helps us discover countless ways to express ourselves at home and instantly feel comfort, pleasure, and ease.

Why settle for merely being "in" our homes when we can be "at home?" Feeling at Home puts us on the path to home as we've always dreamed it could be.

Author Notes

Alexandra Stoddard has designed the interiors of mansions and embassies as well as cottages and one-room studios for clients ranging from notable individuals to young people just starting out. The recipient of the first full scholarship ever awarded by the New York School of Interior Design, she brings more than thirty-six years of design expertise to her work. For fourteen years she worked with Eleanor McMillen Brown, one of the doyennes of interior design, before starting her own design firm, Alexandra Stoddard Incorporated. She appears frequently on television and radio nationwide and has been featured in major magazines internationally. Author of twenty books, including her most recent book on decorating. Open Your Eyes, and her classic. The Decoration of Houses, she is a sought-after speaker on the art of living. She lives with her husband. Peter Megargee Brown, in New York City and Stonington Village, Connecticut.

Reviews 2

Publisher's Weekly Review

Stoddard (Open Your Eyes) is a well-known interior designer, but her books mine a territory that's closer to self-help than color schemes. Her latest volume urges readers to look at themselves and their homes with a new consciousness. Through a text liberally laced with both personal anecdote and queries (from "How well are you getting along with your spouse?" to "How much time do you spend eating?"), Stoddard guides readers through a process of self-exploration, then encourages them to reshape not only their houses but the way they spend time there. What she calls emotional comforts, such as order and color, are enhanced along the way, while unrewarding chores, spaces or possessions are pared down. The result, she convincingly affirms, is a more delightful, less demanding life. Stoddard has a genuine gift for thinking creatively about interior spaces; too often, though, she returns to themes well covered in past booksÄher own and others'Äor collapses into vague silliness ("If in the past you found no satisfaction in emptying the garbage, transcend the garbage pail, rise above it"). However, the book bubbles with an infectious appreciation of even the smallest domestic pleasure and an inspiring awareness of the spiritual and emotional life of a house. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

Stoddard (Open Your Eyes, The Decoration of Houses) explains that this is a "guide to help you live an inner-directed, dynamic life every day in your private haven." She successfully shows how to create an attractive, comfortable home by examining one's lifestyle, personality, and interests. As is her style, she interweaves anecdotes, both personal and professional, with her decorating advice. Recommended for public libraries. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Note to the Readerp. xiii
Part 1 Self-Attunement
Chapter 1 Defining Who You Are Nowp. 3
Chapter 2 Shaping Your Homep. 25
Chapter 3 Fifteen Essential Elements of Emotional Comfort at Homep. 69
Chapter 4 Balancing Your Time at Homep. 143
Part 2 Self-Expression
Chapter 5 Cultivating Your Gift of Creativityp. 187
Chapter 6 Creating Your Ideal Homep. 213
Chapter 7 Enhancing the Quality of Each Dayp. 245
Conclusionp. 283
Indexp. 287