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Intimacy between men : how to find and keep gay love relationships
Driggs, John H.
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New York, N.Y., U.S.A. : Plume, [1990, ]


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xii, 242 pages ; 21 cm
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Originally published: New York : Dutton, 1990.
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Central Library HQ76.2.U5 D75 1990C Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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"A wonderful and wise book that has been needed for a long time."--Patrick J. Carnes.

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This is a more ambitious book than Isensee's seemingly identical Love between Men [BKL F 15 90]. Isensee very helpfully provided a gay male marriage manual focused upon psychological and emotional bonding. Driggs and Finn do likewise but give so much additional advice about a gay man's individual development that their book is, besides a couples counselor, a personal growth instructor. Defining intimacy as "a process . . . enabling individuals to meet personal needs while accepting differences in each other," in effect they suggest this process be mastered alone as well as "in relationships" (the words elided above), that optimally one should achieve intimacy with oneself as a precondition or concomitant of intimacy with another. So they cover barriers to intimacy as much for individuals as for couples, and from their experience as therapists, advance ways of surmounting them. Their calm tone and frequent, supportive, nonsectarian acknowledgment of spirituality further distinguish their effort and may cause religiously concerned gay men to prefer it to Isensee's. Good gay-interest collections will want to have both books. Notes, bibliography; to be indexed. ~--Ray Olson

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