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Forgive or forget : never underestimate the power of forgiveness
Mother Love (Talk show host)
First edition.
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New York : HarperCollins, 1999.
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xx, 187 pages ; 22 cm
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BJ1476 .M67 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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The author of Listen Up, Girlfriends draws on her practical, no-nonsense style and earthy wit to deliver a five-step program for helping everyone learn the true meaning of forgiveness.

Author Notes

Mother Love made her hosting debut on daytime television in 1998 as the guiding force on Forgive or Forget. She is also the spokesperson for a plus-size clothing line and is actively involved in the Regal Empress Showcase, a company created to promote the beauty, style, and grace of plus-size women. She is also active in women's shelters, offering clothing and encouragement to residents in order to instill confidence and ultimately help them gain employment. She lives with her family in the New York area.

Reviews 2

Publisher's Weekly Review

In her second book, talk-show host Mother Love (Listen Up, Girlfriends!) expands on the theme of her network television show by the same name, offering advice on giving and receiving forgiveness. Contending that American society is becoming increasingly intolerant, she asserts that "Madison Avenue has pumped us full of fool notions about achieving perfection, and this makes us more unforgiving of imperfections in ourselves and in others." In her characteristic down-to-earth tone, Mother Love relates how she learned to forgive herself for years of overeating, which in turn helped her change her habits, inspiring a new self-confidence that allowed her to pardon family and friends for their transgressions and to ask others to forgive her when she recognized her own insensitivity. However, her style of humor, which is laced with sarcasm, tends to fall flat on the page and undercuts her sincerity. The insights she has to offerÄabout renouncing revenge, accepting apologies and forgiving someone in the absence of an apologyÄare often buried under the many stories of those who have sought forgiveness or overcome anger in televised confrontations, ultimately making the book come across as little more than a transcribed compilation of outtakes from her show. Agent, Al Lowman; 15-city TV satellite tour; 25-city radio tour; 4-city author tour. (Nov.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

Daytime talk-show host Mother Love (Listen Up! Girlfriends) teams up with self-help author Bolden in this new pop-psychology book. In easy-to-understand terms, they outline their eight steps to forgiveness. In the first section, they explore the problems of dealing with forgiveness; in the second section, they look at the journey to forgiveness; and in the last part, they trace the "Passages of Forgiving." Throughout, they sprinkle proverbs, short quotes, and fill-in-the-blanks. This may be a worthwhile purchase for libraries serving Mother Love fans; otherwise, more popular titles like Sarah Ban Breathnach's Simple Abundance or Richard Carlson's Don't Sweat the Small Stuff would be a better bet.ÄLisa S. Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, NY (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Introductionp. xiii
Part I. Forgiveness: The Problem and the Powerp. 1
Part II. The Journey to Seeking Forgivenessp. 23
Part III. Passages of Forgivingp. 91
Now What?p. 177