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Title:
I closed my eyes : revelations of a battered woman
Author:
Weldon, Michele, 1958-
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Publication Information:
Center City, Minn. : Hazelden Information & Educational Services, [1999]

©1999
Physical Description:
xxi, 262 pages ; 22 cm
Language:
English
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ISBN:
9781568383415
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Book

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Summary

This is the story of a talented, educated, and intelligent woman who realizes that she must free herself from an abusive marriage. I Closed My Eyes is an extremely well-written memoir of fear and hope, of violence and freedom. An inspiring and revealing look at some of the reasons women stay in abusive relationships."Michele Weldon has written with brilliance and force a startling true story of marital abuse that must be heard." -Alexandra Stoddard


Author Notes

Michele Weldon is an adjunct professor at the Medill School of Journalism graduate school, Northwestern University. She writes for the Chicago Tribune.


Reviews 3

Booklist Review

Whether you've been in an abusive relationship, known someone in one, or have no personal experience with the phenomenon, this memoir will challenge all your beliefs about domestic violence. Weldon, an intelligent, self-confident, talented journalist, writes the story of her nine-year abusive marriage, the reasons she stayed, and the reasons she left. The accounts of abuse are unsettlingly juxtaposed with memories of love and romance, but the combination helps to explain the difficulty she had in leaving. Weldon chronicles every second of the passionate, painful marriage, the divorce, the loving, forgiving, growing, and moving on. It is so powerful readers will either love it or hate it; either way, they should learn from it. During a time when memoirs are the hot ticket to publication, Weldon's is written better than most and carries a strong message. --Ellie Barta-Moran


Publisher's Weekly Review

In a memoir that powerfully discredits the stereotype that spousal battering is limited to a particular economic or social class and is drug- or alcohol-related, Weldon, a successful journalist, also belies the notion that someone who has had a happy childhood cannot be brutalized. Weldon's unnamed husband grew up, as did she, in an Irish-Catholic middle-class environment. He became an attractive, charming and well-paid Chicago attorney, a catch who elicited the envy of Weldon's female friends. In part because the marriage looked so good from the outside, and because she loved her husband and did not want to deprive her three sons of their father, Weldon could not accept that he would not stop beating her, despite years of joint counseling and his eloquent apologies. She finally broke her silence nine years into their marriage by screaming aloud one night when her husband attacked her at her in-laws' house. Her account of how she obtained an emergency order of protection, sought therapy for her sons and underwent the expensive and lengthy process of obtaining a divorce conveys how difficult it is for a woman to leave an abusive relationship, even when she has a supportive family and significant economic resources. Unable to truly forgive her ex-husband for his abuse and the legal battles that he subsequently instigated, Weldon has finally forgiven herself for staying in a terrible marriage. This gripping personal story will be helpful to anyone who wishes to understand domestic abuse; Weldon's most important message to battered women is to bring the violence out of the closet. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved


Library Journal Review

Chicago Tribune reporter Weldon (journalism, Northwestern Univ.) skillfully retells an old story about living with and surviving a physically abusive husband. Her tale shatters stereotypes about domestic violence, showing, for instance, that it permeates all classes and educational levels. Likewise, by exploring her happy memories as the child of loving, nurturing parents, she challenges the assumption that battered women seek the battering relationships they knew in their childhood. Weldon begins each chapter with a love letter from her husband that is deeply paradoxical to the abuse she subsequently reveals. Then, in finely honed prose, she takes readers from the early days of their romance to shortly before their separation. Uplifting and self-affirming, this is recommended for all public libraries.√ĄPaula N. Arnold, Boston Coll. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.