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Title:
It's a jungle out there, Jane : understanding the male animal
Author:
Browne, Joy, 1944-2016.
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Edition:
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Crown Publishers, 1999.
Physical Description:
xv, 248 pages ; 25 cm
Language:
English
ISBN:
9780609603574
Format :
Book

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Summary

Summary

Ever wonder why . . . ...a man shuts down or walks away when a woman begins arguing with him? ...guys in a restaurant choose the seats with the backs against the walls? ...some men rarely speak up in meetings and absolutely never put anything in writing? ...most men won't tell even their best friends how much money they really make? ...every man you ever met hates surprise parties? ...men--young, old, and in--between-all panic when a woman say "We need to talk"? Dr. Joy Browne knows why. And whether you're a man or a woman,It's a Jungle Out There, Janecan help you understand why guys act, think, talk, love, stay, stray, tune out, and tune in the way that they do. Dr. Joy can even tell you why they don't help much around the house. So, if you've ever wondered "Why did he (or I) do that?" here's the information you need, all served up in a no-nonsense, wonderfully fun manner. The good news is that men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus, but the rest of the story is that we all--men and women--are animals with an instinctive, primal center that influences how we feel, act, and react. And that means the first step to understanding why guys act, think, talk, love, make love, stay, stray, tune out, tune in, and turn on is to explore the male from his biological, sociological, and anthropological point of view. Sound overwhelming? Not necessarily. Whether we're talking about gorillas in the mist or guys in suburbia, it's best to study organisms in their natural habitat to understand what's really going on. And Dr. Joy Browne does just that--she takes us into the office, the home, the bar, and the bedroom to show us men at work, at play, and at leisure. A best-selling author, syndicated columnist, clinical psychologist, and radio and television talk show host, Dr. Joy is at her insightful best here as she guides you through the wild world of male-female relationships. You'll meet and learn about The Lion  Why do men have to be kings and why is that mane so important to them? The Top Dog  Why do men always know who's up and who's down, and why do they care so much? The Gorilla  Why do men freeze when women say "We need to talk"? The Bear  Why can't men pick up after themselves around the house? The Pack  What do men do when they get together with their friends? Smart, funny, and nonjudgmental, It's a Jungle Out There, Jane offers both men and women the help they need to get along with all the people in their lives, whether they're friends, lovers, mates, or offspring. So, Tarzan, that means when you get to the last page, you'll know yourself better than you do right now. And, Jane, you'll finally be able to answer the question "Why did he do that?" And, best of all, since this is from Dr. Joy Browne, America's favorite radio psychologist,It's a Jungle Out There, Janeoffers self-help advice that really can help. Dr. Joy Browne is America's favorite radio shrink, a syndicated columnist, a best-selling author, and, now, a television talk show host--all because her millions of fans know that she'll always give them what they need: self-help that really can help. Watch for The Dr. Joy Browne Show in your area. Check local listings for airtime.


Author Notes

Joy Browne was born Joy Oppenheim in New Orleans, Louisiana on October 24, 1944. She received a bachelor's degree in behavioral science from Rice University and a master's degree and a doctorate in psychology from Northeastern University. She was practicing psychology and attending Tufts University School of Medicine when she was recruited by WITS-AM.

Her radio program started in 1978. She eventually joined the WOR Radio Network, which in the early 1990s sent her program into national syndication. After WOR was sold in 2012, she eventually joined Genesis Communications Network, where her midday program was still being broadcast on more than 100 stations at her death. On television, versions of her program appeared on CBS and on the Discovery Health cable channel. In 1998, the American Psychological Association gave her an award for "outstanding contribution by a psychologist in the media."

She wrote several books during her lifetime including The Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life; It's a Jungle Out There, Jane; Getting Unstuck; Dating Disasters; and Dating for Dummies. She died on August 27, 2016 at the age of 71.

(Bowker Author Biography)


Reviews 3

Booklist Review

Browne, a psychologist who dispenses advice through her radio program, books, and television shows, starts out acknowledging the ire she will provoke with the subject of male behavior and her treatment of it. Browne explores the social evolution of male behavior, "from the primordial ooze to post-coital snooze and everything in between." The book is organized to examine what she calls "quantum leaps" in changes in male and female relationships: men talking more and women talking less, men listening more and women "really" listening. The key to understanding men is to examine their behavior in the context of animal behavior, says Browne, with an emphasis on dominance, aggressiveness, and status. Her advice: don't whine about an inattentive husband, approach him in ways he's accustomed to, schedule time with him. When a man ruins a simple laundry task or forgets something on the shopping list, he's not being defiant or lazy; he's merely asserting control in an unfamiliar territory. There's much talk of alpha males, pheromones, and chest-thumping behavior as Browne overdoes the jungle theme. She also includes lots of interesting factoids about animals and their behavior in the wild, meant to reinforce the overstated jungle theme but contributing little to understanding human male behavior. --Vanessa Bush


Publisher's Weekly Review

Aiming squarely at the John Gray market, radio psychologist Browne (Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life) counters the Mars/Venus theory with an evolutionary interpretation of male behavior most likely to be appreciated by Janes (and Tarzans) with a sense of humor. Based on the premise that "we're all animals," the book addresses both sexes with the intent of improving their understanding of each other and their relationships. However, its biggest market will be among women who respond to Browne's direct, flippant tone, those who appreciate such advice as as "be careful what you ask for in the truth department" and that the words men fear most are "we need to talk." Direct and unpretentious, Browne views men's behaviorÄnot only in love but at work, at home and as friendsÄin a biological and anthropological light, though in decidedly nonscientific terms. While her approach is not especially original, Browne works hard at making the material entertaining; however, this often diminishes or obscures its self-help potential and underlying common sense. She goes for the laughs, disguising useful tidbits as one-liners: "Blaming yourself for your spouse's indiscretions is like apologizing when your husband burps." Browne's new television show, also scheduled for September, will raise her national recognition and may prove a better forum for the clever notions that stretch thin on the page. Nine-city author tour; national radio satellite tour. (Sept.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved


Library Journal Review

In chapters like "The Pride," "Locking Horns," and "Roaring," high-flying radio/TV psychologist Browne unveils the wild beast inside every guy. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Excerpts

Excerpts

The Jungle A day in the life of a male baboon is one long struggle for status. Only dominant males breed. They get the girl, eat the best food, enjoy gazing out over the savannah while other baboons groom their coats. It's a good life . . . if you're troop leader. For all the rest of the males, it's a life of envy and plots to overthrow the number one guy. A young male baboon continuously attempts to gain status by approaching dominant males and flashing his deadly canine teeth. If an elder flinches and retreats, the studly young baboon moves up in the world. If the dominant male displays bigger fangs and greater fierceness, the Alpha wanna-be turns on his heels and bares his backside in defeat. A day in the life of a human male is one long struggle for status. The most successful guy gets the cover girl, the expense account, the corner office. He has minions to cut his hair, tailor his Armani suits, shine his Bruno Magli shoes. It's a good life . . . if you're CEO. Less powerful males feel that life is about getting ahead, beating the competition, making the sale, garnering a promotion, scoring a bonus, or just keeping younger, hungrier predators off their derrieres. In this country, when a man is between the ages of twenty-five and fifty-five, his identity is primarily defined by what he does to earn a living. Ask a man to describe himself and he'll tell you what he does. Ask a woman and she'll tell you her marital status. It's not that one is bad and the other is good, it's just that they are quite different. Not only does a guy live through his work, his work is who he is. To a man, the world of work is a jungle--a teeming, exhilarating, dangerous, frightening, proving ground. The law is survival of the fittest. The rat race is unrelenting, and whether you're dealing with government regulations, a cranky boss, a stubborn customer, or a competitor, it's a dog-eat-dog world. For a man, what he does is who he is. The male animal's--any male animal's--drive to dominate is a powerful primal urge. Nowhere is this more evident than in the human jungle of the workplace, where guys are constantly looking for ways to brandish their fangs, gain status, cover their butts, become top dog. The beginning of understanding men is understanding how men act at work. When it comes to the adult male of the human species, the way to gather the most relevant data in the shortest time is to study him on the job, whether that's at an office, a construction site, a sales territory, a train engine, or a tractor. Yeah, women also hack their way through the nine-to-five jungle, work the room, the land, the firm, but there's a major difference: Men define themselves through their work. A man without a job is a bum; a woman without a job is a wife or a daughter with some guy supporting her. While men may also be dads, husbands, lovers, beer buddies, racquetball players, or amateur auto mechanics, the idea of being out of work feels like dying. Everything stops--the familiar world disappears. He disappears as his reason for being seems to vanish. (Even from a genetic standpoint, if you can't stick around to protect and provide for your offspring, what's the point in bringing them forth?) Understanding men at work means understanding dominance, aggression, and status. For most men, working is not just about making a living, it's about gaining and maintaining status. Interestingly, the word status comes from the same Latin root as "statura," meaning "upright position or body height." The original definition of status is "the way one stands." A guy feels his status is quite literally the true measure of himself as a man. His stature. His state of being. Men have been taught that aggressive behavior will elevate their status at work. Aggression has a long history of being a prerequisite for successful men. Shareholders want a killer, not a CEO who's "understanding." One of the Fortune 500's giants, Maurice "Hank" Greenberg of AIG Insurance, was dubbed A.I.G. for Aggressive Inscrutable Greenberg by his friends. Think what his competition called him! Another giant on the list, Jack Levy, managing director of Merrill Lynch's Mergers and Acquisitions, says his secret to success is "Never let the other guys breathe." Look at recent best-sellers on the business bookshelf: Trouncing the Dow, Eat the Rich, Winning Every Day, Unleashing the Killer App. What's this mean? Guys feel they need to "go for the throat" to succeed at work and achieve the status that goes with being the head honcho. Men are threatened by younger, more successful men, since these are the young lions who can smell weakness and obliterate an aging animal's manhood in one masterful swipe. The most dominant male wins . . . and winning is everything. Winning can be fun or confusing or even important for women, but winning is crucial for men. Women rarely invest as much self-worth in the outcome. Losing doesn't feel life-threatening to a woman, just disappointing. When a man loses, he feels beaten, whipped, emasculated, humiliated--destined to spend his life grooming the winners, eating leftovers, and never, ever getting the girl. Guys assert their dominance at work all the time, often without even realizing it. They stand instead of sit, they "bark" orders to coworkers, they "forget" to do something their boss asks them to do, they undercut another's achievements. Excerpted from It's a Jungle Out There, Jane: Understanding the Male Animal by Joy Browne All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. xi
1 The Junglep. 1
2 The Lairp. 29
3 The Pridep. 53
4 The Packp. 79
5 Locking Hornsp. 101
6 Matingp. 125
7 Roaringp. 151
8 Plumagep. 175
9 Going for the Killp. 197
10 Womenp. 221
Acknowledgmentsp. 247

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