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Beauty fades, dumb is forever : the making of a happy woman
Sheindlin, Judy, 1942-
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First large print edition.
Publication Information:
New York : HarperLargePrint, [1999]

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[ix], 182 pages ; 24 cm
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Central Library HQ1206 .S47 1999B Adult Large Print - Floating collection Floating Collection - Large Print

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Judge Judy has heard enough. As a family court judge in New York City and now in her successful TV courtroom show, she has listened to thousands of excuses, complaints, and tales of woe from women of every background, and she's ready to rule. Women, she states with her trademark frankness, need to wise up, stop subjugating who they are, and stop making stupid decisions in the name of love. They hide their talents and opinions so they won't offend. They tiptoe through life letting others take credit for their ideas because they would rather be liked than respected. They spend their lives trying to please everyone but them-selves, and then they wonder why they feel so frustrated and unfulfilled.

Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever presents Judge Judy's ten hard and true lessons for happiness:

Beauty fades, dumb is forever. Don't crawl when you can fly. What goes up must come down. Denial is a river in Egypt. Master the game--then play it. You're the trunk of the tree. You can't teach the bull to dance. Failure doesn't build character. Letting go is half the fun. You can be the hero of your own story.

Reviews 3

Booklist Review

Those who have seen Judy Sheindlin's TV show, Judge Judy, know that she doesn't suffer fools--gladly or at all. Her book exhibits the same no-nonsense approach in the advice it gives women. Sheindlin has seen it all in her career as a family court judge: women who have been humiliated, deserted, and beaten. She doesn't want to hear about games, denial, or especially undying love. She wants women to be the heroes of their own stories, and the message is clear: think, think, then do it on your own. Sheindlin takes the same unsparing attitude that has made Dr. Laura so popular, but unlike Laura, she dispenses her opinions with a sense of humor and without the wrath of God. Despite a self-proclaimed happy marriage, Sheindlin doesn't seem to have much respect for men, and if this succinct and witty book has one flaw, it's the occasional hint of male-bashing. No doubt more mature women will be the volume's primary audience, but there are plenty of lessons here for teens, too, starting with the title. --Ilene Cooper

Publisher's Weekly Review

Autobiography and self-help collide in Sheindlin's latest book (after Don't Pee on My Leg and Tell Me It's Raining). Known to millions because of her TV program, Judge Judy, Sheindlin writes with the same theatrical no-nonsense directness that animates her on-air persona. Her theme is stated best in the title, which is just the first of many declarative chestnuts. Aimed at women trying to make it in male-dominated workplaces and traditional marriages, the book is broken into chapters that expound on basic principles illustrated with one or two examples from Sheindlin's long career (Revlon, Manhattan Family Court, network television). There's a slew of surprisingly personal recollections about her own marriages, husbands and divorces. The forthright self-revelations reveal an unusual person with, apparently, no conception of being eccentric. Conventional statements ("I believe that one determined, skilled person can do just about anything") have surprising conclusions: "That's why I keep a Hoover File, as in J. Edgar." Sheindlin unself-consciously goes on to describe how she used her Hoover File to ensure her reappointment to the bench. There are several such gems, all of which will be enjoyed by Judge Judy watchers. Sheindlin's voice comes through with amazing clarity: fans of her show will hear it as they read. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

Those who have tuned into Judge Judy's TV broadcasts, even momentarily, will recognize her no-nonsense approach here. Her straightforward personality shines through her writing, making it a joy to read. Reminiscent of Laura Schlessinger's Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives (LJ 10/15/97), Sheindlin's book doesn't pussyfoot around when explaining how women can create unhappiness in their own lives. Her main point is that a woman can't rely on a man to provide her with a life, nor should she even try. Although some readers may find Sheindlin's male bashing a little over the topÄat one point she claims that "within the family structure, what men do best is breathe"Äher hit-them-over-the-head approach makes this book well worth buying for most collections.ÄPamela A. Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introductionp. 1
1 Don't Crawl When You Can Flyp. 13
2 What Goes Up Must Come Downp. 33
3 Denial Is a River in Egyptp. 45
4 Master the Game--Then Play Itp. 67
5 You're the Trunk of the Treep. 97
6 You Can't Teach the Bull to Dancep. 111
7 Failure Doesn't Build Characterp. 131
8 Letting Go Is Half the Funp. 155
9 You Can Be the Hero of Your Own Storyp. 167
10 A Final Word: Do Not Abdicate!p. 179

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