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Winning in the game of life : self-coaching secrets for success
Gegax, Tom.
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First edition.
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New York : Harmony Books, [1999]

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xvi, 318 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
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The concepts and techniques detailed Winning In the Game of Life propelled Tom's emergence from in the depths of divorce, cancer, and a troubled business. The self-management curriculum Tom presents in this book are those that fueled a major leap in the health of his body, relationships, and company.This book provides the context for answering that awe-inspiring question -- what am I here to do personally and professionally? Tom discusses the dynamics between personal and workplace missions, and what to do when the two don't see eye-to-eye. He teaches a variety of communication skills that will allow you to navigate those occasionally rough waters of work and home. Finally, he steers you on the road to accomplishing your mission in every part of your life.Winning In the Game of Life will add to your daily mental workout the fine and subtle arts of psychology, spirituality, and physical well-being. These will produce what no other single source can hope to: an effective and happy employee, an organizational leader, and above all a contented and fulfilled human being.

Author Notes

Tom gegax is the founder and head coach (CEO) of Tires Plus Stores, In this unlikely business sector, Gegax has created an innovative corporate culture based on his self-coaching concepts, which include shiatsu massage, meditation, nutrition classes, and a feng shui-designed headquarters. He serves on the boards of Deepak Chopra's worldwide organization and EarthSave International, among others. He lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota.

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Booklist Review

For those who carefully separate their work and personal lives and find fulfillment in neither, Gegax may have an answer. For Gegax, creating a winning life plan requires defining a mission and taking steps that balances career, friends, community, and family into an integrated whole. By using self-coaching techniques to jump-start his own life, Gegax was able to overcome cancer, divorce, and a troubled career. Some of his advice seems to come from a foundation for winning in business (defining a mission, etc.), but since much of it has worked well, why not? More in the stricter vein of self-help are the guidelines for spiritual wellness and wellness of the intellect and psyche. In the latter, he describes the healthy psyche and the roadblocks to self-discovery. Forming the end of his integrated circle are relationships, which include the one everyone tends to forget--community. Solid for self-help and business collections. --Marlene Chamberlain

Publisher's Weekly Review

Even those who don't buy into Gegax's complete program will get their money's worth out of this ambitious guide to a holistic whole-life makeover from a surprising source: the founder of the Midwest-based Team Tires Plus, a $200 million retail tire chain. When he faced simultaneous crises in his marriage, business and health, Gegax undertook an array of New Age activities (meditation, body work, spirituality grounded in A Course of Miracles) in addition to such traditional practices as psychotherapy, exercise and improving his diet. Seeking answers to his problems with the same determination he used to build his business, he successfully reengineered his life. Challenging his readers to follow his lead, Gegax packs his volume with lessons and his philosophy, along with a plan for developing and integrating all aspects of what he calls the "Inner Team": an individual's physical, intellectual, psychological and spiritual strengths. The sections on finding one's life mission and refining one's personal qualities (e.g., caring, optimism, passion, persistence, discipline, spirituality) to achieve it are among the best, although the spirituality chapter is less clear than others. Gegax smartly synthesizes the work of a wide array of personal development gurus, from Andrew Weil to Daniel Goleman to Marianne Williamson, but he may be too aggressively self-actualized for some readers. Nevertheless, business executives and others who enjoy his competitive tone will find much to think about, especially his advice on time management, selling, communication skills and mentoring. Agent, Kim Witherspoon; major ad/promo; 13-city author tour. (Aug.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

Gegax got cancer, got divorced, and got stuck with a failing businessÄand then turned his life around completely. Here's how he did it. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.



Determine Your Mission Success. Arguably the most sought after and least understood prize in America. Many hunger for it, and some never realize when they've got it. Most of us want to be successful human beings, mates, parents, workers, managers, homemakers, salespeople. To achieve it, many work their nails bloody logging long hours and packing more activity into already bloated schedules.          Yet it's startling to consider that while this effort may yield some of the usual trappings, many still don't feel successful. Underneath the satisfaction of good performance reviews, a bigger house, and committee memberships, many still feel that success is somewhere out there yet to be snared.          No wonder. Our eyes are bleary from reading business-success tomes and taking notes at "achievement" seminars. Still, we're left asking the same questions: What makes us tick? What makes us sick? What drives us? While the average American works more hours than ever, little of the effort actually helps us understand anything about ourselves. Crowded out by the often manic push for success, simple, reflective inquiry rarely hits anyone's radar screen.          Many of us are encouraged to train our attention outward, toward such linear concepts as the latest managerial trend, and toward consuming and producing on time, on trend, and in step. We're often so concerned with learning how to manage others--employees, children, mates, even friends--that we're left with little energy to manage ourselves. Obsessed with mastering the world around us, we often fail to notice the unexplored world within. As French author Édouard Schuré writes, "Modern man seeks pleasure without happiness, happiness without knowledge, and knowledge without wisdom." Meanwhile, the search goes on for the secret to success, as if there were a single pill that would make all the difference.          In my experience, there is no magic bullet. Success, however, is forever within reach, personal and professional growth evolving hand in hand through a winning life game plan. This "whole person" approach focuses on every aspect of our being to support a well-lived personal and professional life. Every aspect is a player and every player is necessary. No one need be left on the bench. Recognizing that a win-lose dichotomy only fragments your mission, this winning life game plan redefines "winning" into a venture of cooperation and integration. Win-lose evolves into win-win. Everyone and everything benefits.          This integrated approach is a path to success, but what kind of "success" are we talking about? This life game plan isn't just about making more money, ascending the corporate ladder, or cramming in one more goal in the name of efficiency. That narrow view of what constitutes success stands between us and deeper satisfaction. With our eyes locked only on the prize, we forget that a winning life is a product of how we play the game.          Success, like a jewel, has many facets, and it can be easy to focus on two of the most eye-catching: money and career. Important? Sure, polishing those are part of the plan. Turn the jewel in your hand, though, and take a look at all the other glints of well-rounded success: loving relationships, community consciousness, physical and psychological health, intellectual balance, spiritual connection--to name just a few. An effective life plan polishes them all. While no single facet defines success, the sum reflects a life well-lived. Creating a Winning Life Game Plan This winning life game plan starts by showing you how to tap your inherent wisdom, desires, and values to discover your life's compass: your personal mission. Compass in hand, the plan then combines theory and practical skills to show you the key plays and the support systems you can develop to coach yourself toward your mission--the bedrock of your success.          After determining your mission in chapter 1, chapter 2 shows you how to transform it into practical action plans and how to support it with time-competency, a crucial skill in our ever-changing, round-the-clock world. Chapter 3 zooms in on six distinctive traits I call "COPPSS"--caring, optimism, persistence, passion, systems-discipline, and spirit-filled behavior--that put our action plans into play.          Chapters 4, 5, and 6 explore key plays to support and nurture body, intellect, psyche, spirit--what I call the "Inner Team." In harmony, they produce unmatched energy, clarity of mind, and tranquillity. In the process, you'll learn how to get out of ruts (old habits that no longer contribute to what you want) and into grooves (habits that promote what you want). Standing on the shoulders of wellness, you begin to see beyond what may be blocking your path--fears, unfulfilling relationships and careers, narrow ideas, or egotism.         Excerpted from Winning in the Game of Life: Self-Coaching Secrets for Success by Tom Gegax All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Deepak Chopra
Foreword...or, more appropriately, Forward!p. xi
Prefacep. xiii
Acknowledgmentsp. xv
1. Determine Your Missionp. 1
Creating a Winning Life Game Planp. 2
What is Self Coaching?p. 4
The Drive to Thrivep. 5
Elements of a Winning Life Game Planp. 11
Determine Your Missionp. 17
2. Seven Take-Action Steps to Manifest Your Missionp. 24
1. Decide What You Want to Give and Getp. 28
2. Create Action Plansp. 33
3. Integrate the Planp. 34
4. Get Organizedp. 37
5. Be Time Wisep. 38
6. Just Do Itp. 49
7. Let Gop. 51
3. Six Traits for the Tripp. 53
1. Caringp. 55
2. Optimisticp. 63
3. Passionatep. 69
4. Persistentp. 72
5. Systems-Disciplinedp. 77
6. Spirit-Filledp. 78
4. Fit for Your Mission: Physical Wellnessp. 90
Tapping the Source of Whole-Person Wellnessp. 92
Fuel Yourself with Foodp. 101
Fuel Yourself with Waterp. 116
Fuel Yourself with Airp. 117
Exercisep. 120
Sleepp. 126
Supportive Bodyworkp. 129
5. Fit for Your Mission: Wellness of Intellect and Psychep. 134
The Healthy Intellectp. 134
Tackling Overloadp. 136
Passion of the Intellectp. 137
Shhh...I Can't Hear Myself Think!p. 140
Care and Feeding of the Intellectp. 141
The Healthy Psychep. 143
Sources of Psychep. 145
Roadblocks to Self-Discoveryp. 147
Explorations: In Touch with Your Psychep. 154
Eight Key Plays for Coaching the Psychological Selfp. 158
Negotiating Negativesp. 167
Psyche at Workp. 174
6. Fit for Your Mission: Spiritual Wellnessp. 177
On Assignmentp. 179
Getting Past the Roadblocksp. 179
Eight Key Plays for Spiritual Practicep. 187
Time for Spiritp. 196
The Real Gamep. 198
Time for Inner Team Wellnessp. 201
7. Ten Lessons for Lifetime Learningp. 204
1. Who, Me?p. 209
2. Experience: Your Best Teacherp. 210
3. Peers of a Featherp. 211
4. Mining Mentor Goldp. 214
5. Lessons from Our Youngersp. 218
6. Modeling Successp. 219
7. Columbo-Curiousp. 220
8. Your Talk-Listen Ratiop. 221
9. Study Your Team's Playbookp. 222
10. Tap Outside Resourcesp. 223
8. No Failure to Communicatep. 225
Four Inside Moves for Mutually Fulfilling Relationshipsp. 228
Eight Magical Phrasesp. 238
Listen Upp. 241
Speak Upp. 243
The Ethical Sell (No, It's Not an Oxymoron)p. 248
Coming Through Loud and Clearp. 256
9. Relationship Circlesp. 258
Self: Knowing Someone in There Caresp. 260
Your Career: A Diamond in the Rough?p. 261
Money Mattersp. 267
That Wonderful Thing Called Lovep. 275
Children: Parenting the Next Generationp. 280
Parents and Elders: The Generation Aheadp. 290
Friends Old and Newp. 295
Close-Knitting Your Communityp. 296
Earth: A Friend in Needp. 298
The Universe and Beyondp. 300
Additional Acknowledgmentsp. 303
Resourcesp. 305
Bibliographyp. 311
Indexp. 315