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Lost & found : a kid's book for living through loss
Gellman, Marc.
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Publication Information:
New York : Morrow Junior Books, [1999]

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176 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Describes different kinds of losses--losing possessions, competitions, health, trust, and the permanent loss because of death--and discusses how to handle these situations.
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BV4905.2 .G44 1999 Juvenile Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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Losing Stinks! Even losing a toy or a game feels rotten. But when a friend moves away, a parent leaves home during a divorce, or a loved one dies, sometimes it seems as if the hurt will never go away. So how is it possible that loss can be an important opportunity? Rabbi Marc Gellman and Monsignor Thomas Hartman -- also known as television and radio's God Squad -- draw on years of counseling experience to suggest universal truths that will help those of any religion to live and grow through losses large and small. With surprising good humor, they show how people have responded with courage and even heroism to the curveballs life has thrown them. They've also selected comforting readings from favorite prose and poetry, offering wise words, healing laughter, or time for quiet reflections. This heartening book reminds us of the many ways that we can keep hope alive when the going gets rough. With a remarkable balance of common sense and profound insight, two award-winning authors skillfully show how, in a most extraordinary way, our bumps and bruises make us whole.

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Booklist Review

Gr. 4^-6. Familiar television faces and the authors of How Do You Spell God? (1995), Gellman, a rabbi, and Hartman, a Roman Catholic priest, explore issues of loss for elementary-and middle-school students, and for parents who want to discuss such concerns with their children. Using words like "stuffy" and "busting up," their informal text is aimed straight at kids and incorporates lots of examples children can relate to as well as relevant excerpts from such wide-ranging sources as A. A. Milne's Winnie the Pooh and Sarah Dessen's 1996 teen novel, That Summer. Careful not to patronize or denigrate, they begin with discussion of "small" losses--a missing toy, a friend's moving away--and proceed to losses of greater magnitude, such as divorce or the death of a loved one. With a few exceptions, such as a discussion of the soul, this is not a strictly religious book. Rather it is a practical, heartfelt exploration that emphasizes the idea of picking up after a loss and learning to look back with fondness and understanding. A list of further readings is appended. --Stephanie Zvirin

School Library Journal Review

Gr 5-8The first part of this book, Lost, but Not Gone Forever, covers issues such as losing possessions, losing at sports, losing siblings when they move away from home, losing a parent in a divorce, losing a limb, and losing confidence. The second section covers death and grieving. The authors, a rabbi and a priest, obviously have a lot of experience in dealing with grief. Unfortunately, they have adopted a cloying, condescending tone that seems certain to get in the way of their message. For example, in the chapter on losing a friend, they write: The first way to lose a friend is if a witch casts an evil spell andzap!turns your friend into a frog. Given the seriousness of the subject matter, it seems unnecessary to rely on this kind of cuteness. Elizabeth Weitzmans Lets Talk about When a Parent Dies (Rosen, 1996) and Marilyn Gootmans When a Friend Dies (Free Spirit, 1994) are more worthwhile choices.David N. Pauli, Portland Jewish Academy, OR (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.