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Birth order blues : how parents can help their children meet the challenges of birth order
Wallace, Meri.
Personal Author:
First Owl book edition.
Publication Information:
New York : H. Holt, 1999.
Physical Description:
xvi, 202 pages ; 21 cm
General Note:
"An Owl book."
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BF723.B5 W35 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks
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Birth order has a powerful effect on children's emotional development, on their self-esteem, and on their sense of well-being. The youngest child, the firstborn, the middleborn, twins, and the only child all have specific birth order issues that, if not atted to early on, can impair their functioning and their interpersonal relations at home and at school, and can follow them into adulthood. Parental birth order, too, plays an important role, as do such other factors as gender and family size. To understand these birth order blues, the author, an expert in parent-child relationships, first raises parents' awareness of the impact of birth order upon children. She then shows how to identify their children's birth order problems, often disguised by behaviors such as underachievement or aggression, and suggests how they can resolve these issues and prevent negative behavioral patterns from developing.

Author Notes

Meri Wallace, M.S.W., is director of the Heights Center for Adult and Child Development. She is the author of Keys to Parenting Your Four Year Old and lives in Brooklyn, New York.

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Library Journal Review

Order of birth, sex of child, years between children, number of parents at home, range of natural or step-siblingsÄthe combinations influencing family dynamics are endless. Wallace, a social worker and family therapist, helps parents understand how these factors influence family life. She describes these many variables through the case study of a growing family, adding insight on how parents can help get past conflict to a measure of family harmony. She also describes twins and the only child. Wallace sees birth order as one aspect among many influencing personality. She supports the theories put forth by Frank Sulloway in his extensive, well-researched Born To Rebel (Pantheon, 1996) but centers on the parents' role in alleviating family "blues." Recommended.ÄLinda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, PA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.