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Happy between relationships how you can be very happy when not involved with a partner for 1 hour or 10 years.
Rutkowski, Ken.
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Cupertino, CA : McAlpine Press, 1999.
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264 pages ; 22 cm
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BF575.L7 R88 1998 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Divided into five chapters: 1. Getting Over a Breakup as Quickly and Completely as Possible2. Laying the Foundation for Lasting Happiness3. Making the Single Life a Good Thing4. Thriving in the Single Life (Among People)5. Thriving in the Single Life (in Splendid Solitude)Independent happiness makes getting into bad relationships much less likely while making good marriages much happier. Happy Between Relationships takes the reader through all the phases of aloneness, from the raw state of having just broken up with someone, to brief or extended separation from a partner, to prolonged periods of being single.

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Library Journal Review

Given the popularity of Helen Fielding's Bridget Jones's Diary (LJ 5/15/98) and its American TV cousin Ally McBeal, it was inevitable that a spate of books dealing with singleness would crop up. Although Roth and Rutkowski have produced two very different books, their purposes are identical: to assure the Bridgets and Allys of the world that just because they're single doesn't mean they're doomed to loneliness and heartbreak. Roth attempts to prove this point by following three successful and busy single women in their late 20s or early 30s for one year. Each woman has a glamorous job‘ad exec, movie producer, and media relations expert for a record company. Each woman also has hankerings for men that readers know intuitively are wrong for them‘a mentor/ father figure, a strong and silent cowboy, a 23-year-old boy toy. Despite all the conversations Roth conveys and the lengthy descriptions she gives of each woman, this is pretty much all you learn about them. Some libraries may want to consider this book (especially where Bridget's a hit), but it's a marginal purchase. [Previewed in Prepub Alert, LJ 11/15/98.] Rutkowski, whose credentials include 11 years of writing on "the human experience" and several years of "being happy, very happy" despite being alone, goes at things differently from Roth. He maintains, as countless others have maintained before him, that the only way to be happy is not to count on others to make you happy. He provides 66 chapters of hints on how to foster happiness in yourself. The hints range from the lame (read dictionaries to make yourself knowledgeable and therefore happy) to the obvious (emulate a child's sense of wonder). All in all, not recommended.‘Pamela A. Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.