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The twelfth commandment of wildly successful women : discover your own best answers to the big questions about life, work, and love
Gilberd, Pamela.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
Worcester, Mass. : Chandler House Press ; Lanham, MD : Distributed to the trade by National Book Network, [1999]

Physical Description:
xxv, 454 pages ; 25 cm
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HF5386 .G44 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Practice making the right decisions in life--just select your own adventure from 24 choices where you can be a fictional character facing real-life dilemmas about money, careers, family, and relationships.

Author Notes

After graduating from Northwestern University, Pamela Boucher Gilberd has had multiple careers: Ms. Gilberd writes, lectures, and consults on success, business, and career "reinvention" issues. Pam and her husband have raised six children in their blended family and reside in North Lake Tahoe, California.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The Twelfth Commandment: Discover Your Own Best Answersp. xv
The Twelve Commandmentsp. xxiii
Part I Life Adventures: Money, Survival, and Personal Developmentp. 1
1 Having lost my job, my identity, and my self-confidence, how do I pick myself up and get back on track?p. 3
Rebuilding your self-confidence
Overcoming a "victim" mentality
Reinventing yourself (Developing new skills)
Commandment 5
2 How can I quit this dead-end job when I can't live without that weekly paycheck?p. 27
Budgeting for flexibility and freedom
Taking personal responsibility for your life and career
Taking calculated risks
Commandment 3
3 What do I do when my once-shiny dream job turns into a nightmare?p. 51
"Re-potting" yourself (Using current skills differently)
Unchaining yourself from others' expectations
Overcoming eating disorders
Commandment 10
4 How can I reenter the workforce when I've stayed at home raising kids for the past eighteen years?p. 75
Building your self-worth
Analyzing appropriate jobs
Creating your own opportunities
Commandment 7
5 How can I start my own business when I don't have a clue about what I really want to do?p. 99
Discovering your interests
Choosing the right business for you
Preparing for business ownership
Commandment 2
6 How do I regain control when I'm going through a divorce, work at home with two small kids, and just started chemotherapy?p. 123
Managing life and a major illness
Setting up workable systems
Combatting stress with a positive attitude and humor
Commandment 4
Part II Work Adventures: Career Choices and Movesp. 149
7 What can I do when I get stuck on the corporate ladder?p. 151
Climbing the right ladder
Making yourself promotable
Transforming your skills
Commandment 2
8 How do I make sure gender and age issues don't hold me back?p. 177
Knowing your rights
Fighting discrimination
Developing a fall-back plan
Commandment 2
9 How do I deal with rivalry among women in my office?p. 201
Overcoming malicious rivalry
Developing healthy competition
Creating win/win solutions
Commandment 3
10 How do I manage former peers when I get that big promotion?p. 223
Stretching beyond self-imposed limits
Mastering great management techniques
Leading with confidence
Commandment 11
11 Can a single mom like me, who can't work a lot of extra hours, still prove she's a valuable employee?p. 247
Dealing with a chronically ill child and work commitments
Forming equitable work policies
Finding the right work atmosphere
Commandment 5
12 How can I grow a new business on a shoestring budget?p. 271
Benefiting from a business plan
Gaining visibility for your business
Mastering cost-effective marketing
Commandment 6
13 How can I deal with the frustration and exhaustion that come from running my own business?p. 299
Delegating effectively
Hiring wisely
Assessing feasible alternatives
Commandment 9
Part III Love Adventures: Relationships, Family, and Balancep. 321
14 How can I learn to trust again after a business associate's betrayal?p. 323
Trusting your instincts
Righting wrongs
Regaining faith in others
Commandment 8
15 What do I do when my husband says he supports my career but does so many things to sabotage it?p. 345
Handling yourself around controlling people
Developing clear communication skills
Creating mutually agreeable solutions
Commandment 7
16 What should I do when my husband encourages me to help out in his business but shuts me out of the big decisions?p. 369
Making a family business run smoothly
Setting your boundaries
Dealing with domestic violence
Commandment 2
17 How do I, as the major breadwinner in our family, handle the fact that I want to spend more time at home with our baby?p. 391
Weighing the value of part-time vs. full-time employment
Standing up for your needs
Finding equitable ways to share responsibilities
Commandment 5
18 How can I find a moment for myself when I must juggle a career, joint parenting, a significant other, an aging parent, and my own hot flashes?p. 413
Facing the fact you're not Superwoman
Creating reliable support systems
Appreciating your own special life
Commandment 1
Indexp. 437