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Making sense of your teenager : understanding your teenager's changing body, mind and spirit
Kutner, Lawrence.
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Publication Information:
New York : Avon Books, [1998]

Physical Description:
xiii, 224 pages ; 21 cm.
General Note:
Originally published: New York: William Morrow, 1997.

"First Avon Books trade printing: April 1998"--T.p. verso.

Includes index.
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HQ796 .K857 1997C Adult Non-Fiction Parenting

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The Fascinating, Frustrating,: and Confusing Evolution of Adolescence

As youngsters reach adolescence, they change both physically and emotionally. Overnight, a teenager becomes a mass of contradictionsan enigma to confound even the best of parents. Now Dr. Lawrence Kutner, the "Ask the Expert" columnist for Parents magazine, offers the latest advice on effectively handling the tumultuous teen years.

In MAKING SENSE OF YOUR TEENAGER, the final volume in Dr. Kutner's Parent & Child series, the author gives reasonable and practical advice to help parents navigate the rocky teen years. From puberty, dating, and appearance to eating disorders, depression and sexuality, Dr. Kutner emphasizes communication, limit-setting, and freedom of expression as the keys to a healthy parent-teen relationship.


Cope with the changes of puberty
Respond to peer pressure
Avoid risky behaviors: alcohol, drugs, smoking and sex
Argue productively
Handle dating and their first breakup
Realize their college and career aspirations
and much more!

With Dr. Kutner's illuminating and sound insights, MAKING SENSE OF YOUR TEENAGER is the only guide parents need to help their teenage children grow into happy, well-adjusted young men and women.

Reviews 3

Booklist Review

Kutner, a popular columnist for Parents magazine, winds up his four-book Parent & Child series (see BKL Mr 15 96 for Your School-Age Child) with another eminently practical guidebook. Communication, flexibilty, and fairness underlie his advice, which considers many traditional issues of parent-teen controversy, from style of dress and choice of friends, to sexual behavior, college choice, and the watershed of obtaining a driver's license. Kutner is never peremptory, and he never scolds as he advises parents on how to respond to a variety of particular behaviors, including risky ones such as smoking, sexual activity, or reading pornography. Throughout, he emphasizes the importance of parents' communicating rules and values to their adolescent children, but he's just as clear about allowing teens latitude to explore their new world. Authoritative yet measured counsel that keeps both parents and teens in mind. --Stephanie Zvirin

Publisher's Weekly Review

In three previous books (Your School-Age Child, etc.), Kutner, a psychologist and columnist for Parents magazine, covered the stages of child development, from pregnancy through infancy and the beginning of school. Now, he offers advice on what to do if your child starts smoking, how to handle driving, putting the brakes on overspending for the prom and how to offer guidance about jobs and college. Kutner reminds parents that teens, though on the cusp of adulthood and often rebellious, still need and want firm limits. Don't abdicate your authority, he warns: "Your child has to learn to live with the fact that the two of you can disagree but that you're still the parent." Appearance and embarrassment, two teen obsessions, are covered in detail; Kutner reminds parents that teenagers are "convinced that their behavior and appearance is the focus of everyone's attention." In straightforward style, Kutner also touches briefly on tougher topics like anorexia, drug and alcohol abuse, depression, suicide and talking to teens about sex. To lighten up the procession of advice, most of which is well-worn if also well-put, Kutner throws in examples from his own childhood and psychological practice, reminding readers by example that a sense of humor is a sine qua non of dealing with teens: "Falling in love for the first time and obtaining a driver's license are perhaps the two most profound events in an adolescent's emotional development." (Apr.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

A noted psychologist, columnist, and author (Pregnancy and Your Baby's First Year, LJ 1/93), Kutner once again gives parents sound advice‘this time regarding the parent-teen relationship. In the fourth and final book in his "Parent & Child" series, he offers insight into teenage behaviors that on the surface are confused, contradictory, and awkward‘actions that, in fact, reflect the adolescent's grappling with such issues as self-identity, bodily changes, romantic attractions, and peer pressure. With an emphasis on the importance of communication and understanding, Kutner's advice to parents is at once intelligent, practical, and witty. Pervading his comments on potential problems is his positive and reassuring attitude about the teen years. While acknowledging that "life with teenagers is an adventure," Kutner reminds parents to "hang on and enjoy the ride"; fortunately, he provides a road map that will help them make the trip without a serious breakdown. Essential for libraries with strong childrearing collections.‘Pamela W. Bellows, Northwestern Connecticut Community-Technical Coll. Lib., Winsted (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.