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The Knot's complete guide to weddings in the real world : the ultimate source of ideas, advice, and relief for the bride and groom and those who love them
Roney, Carley.
Personal Author:
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Broadway Books, [1998]

Physical Description:
xiv, 401 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
General Note:
Includes index.
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HQ745 .R66 1998 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Planning for the big day? Here are the most up-to-date answers to all your questions in the first book from the editors of The Knot, the largest online wedding resource. Overwhelmed by the countless questions and details that planning your wedding entails? Don't despair! The Knot's Complete Guide to Weddings helps you make all the critical decisions and takes you step-by-step from your engagement to the big day, from the reception to the honeymoon.  Inside you'll find checklists, worksheets, true tales, insider advice, and in-depth sections on: How to personalize your wedding Updated wedding etiquette Creating a realistic budget Choosing a great location Shopping for The Perfect Dress Tips for working with florists, caterers, officiants, and others Sneaky cost-trimming tricks Invitation wording Ethnic wedding customs Vows and ceremony details Plus: Coping with stressful family situations, dealing with interfaith issues, and maintaining strength, sanity, and romance through it all.

Author Notes

Carley Roney is founder and editor in chief of The Knot ( and AOL keyword: knot), the world's most popular and complete wedding Web site. She fields the questions and concerns of more than one million couples a month.

(Bowker Author Biography) Carley Roney is the founder and editor in chief of "The Knot", the world's most popular wedding Web site. She lives in New York.

(Bowker Author Biography)

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Library Journal Review

These three books offer all the up-to-date advice on weddings that this year's crop of couples might need. Going to the Chapel, compiled by the editors of Signature Bride magazine, is aimed at black couples and includes ways to add African elements to a "traditional" wedding or to use authentic African customs throughout. Included are Yoruba and Christian Nigerian suggestions as well as Muslim practices. One of the most popular sites on the World Wide Web is, which serves over 250,000 visitors per month. Its editorial staff has put together a print guidebook to all the nuances of wedding and honeymoon planning. This guide includes everything that Emily Post ever mentioned but will be more appealing to the cybergeneration. McCoy concentrates on getting the most for your wedding dollar. Her book is concise and well organized, with worksheets, resource lists, and even wedding cake recipes. Her chapter on selecting diamonds is outstanding. Any of these titles will be a good choice for public libraries. Those serving a large, diverse population will want them all. Those that can only manage one or two will have to consider their current collections and the needs of their particular clientele.‘Susan B. Hagloch, Tuscarawas Cty. P.L., New Philadelphia, OH (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.



Foreword When we launched The Knot Web site in 1996, we just knew there were people out there like us--modern, smart, in-love couples looking for an up-to-date, stylish, and real-world approach to planning their weddings.  Within a year we had a huge online following of hundreds of thousands of to-be-weds from all over the country.  Word spread fast.  It seems that couples simply can't find anything out there that matches The Knot's tell-it-like-it-is advice, fresh ideas, practical etiquette, and stress-relieving sanity.  (Besides that, we are the only real resource out there for both the bride and groom.) We're thrilled to be able to put in print the best of The Knot's opinions, exhaustive databases of information, and real people's experiences.  You simply can't beat the completeness and portability of a book--never mind the fact you can snuggle down into bed with it (together). Before you dig in, take a look at the table of contents.  We've structured things in (sort of) chronological order.  But don't think you have to sit down and read this book from start to finish.  At the opening of each chapter you'll see what's covered.  Scan and look for the headlines that address your current issues. Since we know planning a wedding can be kind of intimidating, we've tried to make this book as user-friendly as possible.  The sidebars offer easy nuggets of important info on saving money, resources, hot ideas, and more.  If you're overwhelmed and don't have the vaguest idea where to begin, check out the "To Do" list in Appendix A.  It tells you what to worry about when and tells you which chapters in this book will guide you through each to-do. This is a working book, not a bible.  Feel free to mark things, tear out pages, dog-ear to your heart's content.  There's a fun and fact-filled resource section in the back of the book with phone numbers, resources, checklists, and worksheets.  Make it your own. Finally, as far as we're concerned, there's only one thing that really matters: that you have the wedding you want, not a nervous breakdown.  Don't get too caught up in the details.  Your wedding will be mesmerizing--no matter how big or small the budget, no matter how much or how little time you can devote to making it happen.  So whether your wedding is an over-the-top 400-person formal religious affair or an intimate backyard barbeque after eloping, you're in the right place.  Read up.  Make decisions.  Trust your judgment.  Let go.  Enjoy. Excerpted from The Knot's Complete Guide to Weddings: The Ultimate Source of Ideas, Advice, and Relief for the Bride and Groom and Those Who Love Them by Carley Roney, Knot Editors All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Part I Decisions, Decisions
1 The Adventure Begins
Engagement Length Spilling the Beans Engagement
Parties Engagement
Announcements Engaged Ups and Downs Buying the Ring
2 Envisioning the Event
Setting Your Priorities Divining a Date and Time Settling on Size Finding a Site Selecting a Wedding Style
Wedding Consultants
3 Taking it Personally
Using the Season Adding Ethnic
Traditions Free-Style Weddings Playing Up Your Passions
4 Budget and Business
Setting Your Budget Who's Paying and How?
Budgeting Basics Working with Wedding Professionals
5 Attendants and Guests
Attendants and Their Roles Lining Up the Little Ones Fitting
In the Folks Roles for Other Important People Greeting
Those Guests
6 Prewedding Parties
Showers Bachelor/ette Bashes
The Rehearsal Dinner
The Parties You Throw
7 Standing on Ceremony
Religious vs. Civil Ceremonies Finding
Your Officiant Ceremony Basics Ceremonies with Personal
Style Religious Ceremony Specifics Interfaith Ceremonies Second Weddings Commitment Ceremonies
8 A Rousing Reception
What Happens When The Receiving Line Seating
Your Guests Reception Rituals
Part II Details, Details
9 The Paper Trail
Printing Techniques Invitation Basics Invitation
Wording Addressing the Envelopes Selecting a Stationer Other Wedding Stationery
10 Location, Location
Starting Your Search What to Look For Meeting with Managers Great Wedding Places
11 The Gown
Bridalwear 101 Where to Get the Gown Going Shopping
The Search Is Over Dressing It Up: Accessories Preserving Your Dress
12 Tuxes and Dresses
Men's Formalwear 101 Dressing the Bridesmaids Clothing
Your Wedding Kids Fashion Tips for Mom and Pop
13 The Food Chain
Deciding Which Meal to Serve Choosing a Caterer
Talking to Your Caterer Making the Menu Memorable Hot Menus from Cool Chefs Serving Drinks Cut to the Cake
14 Flower Power
Which Blooms to Use?
Ceremony Flowers Reception Flowers Finding a Fabulous Florist Other Decorations
15 Picture This Photography: Focusing On a Style Hiring a Hot Shot
Photo Types and Twists Videography: Zooming In on a Genre Hiring a Video Pro
16 Face the Music Ceremony Music: Music-Deserving Moments Ceremony Music Options
Hiring Your Music Makers Reception Music: Band vs. DJ Hiring
Your Reception Entertainers Getting Everyone Groovin'
17 Giving and Getting
Signing Up for Stuff: Registering Gift-Getting
Dos and Don'ts Expressing Your Gratitude
Part III Sticky Subjects
18 Love Patrol
Fending Off Your Family Managing Money Madness Passion Patrol Religious Rifts
The Challenge of Change Fighting Right Cures for Cold Feet
19 Combining Cultures Differences and Your Relationship Different Worlds, One Address Compromise 101 Family Friction Fair-Weather Friends
20 In-Laws and Outlaws
Dealing with Your Parents Divorced Dilemmas Interacting with the In-Laws Why Friends Freak Out
Part IV The Main Event
21 The Countdown Unfinished Wedding Business Getting Gorgeous It's All in the Timing Last-Minute Craziness Having a Ball
22 The Big Night
Leaving the Wedding Where to Next?
Let the Games Begin The Big Morning After
Part V The Great Escape
23 Honeymoon Highway
The Best Beaches Adrenaline Adventures Urban Escapes Head
Trips Exotica Classic Cruises
24 Honeymoon Helper
Making Some Decisions Booking Your Trip Getting Ready to Go
Tips from Experienced Travelers Adv