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Bride's book of etiquette
Revised edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Berkley Pub. Group, [1999]

Physical Description:
324 pages : illustrations ; 27 cm
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Rev. ed. of: Bride's all new book of etiquette. c1993.

"A Perigee book."
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Bride's (Condé Nast Publications, inc.)

Bride's all new book of etiquette.
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BJ2051 .B7 1999 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks-Oversize

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Everyone dreams of the perfect wedding. And for nearly seven decades, Bride's magazine has been the leading authority on the subject. Now, in a completely revised edition, Bride's Book of Etiquette offers the most up-to-date information on engagement and wedding planning, and realistic solutions for any problem that couples may encounter.This trusted classic includes information on: * Drawing up--and paring down--the guest list * Wording invitations for special circumstances * How to get his family to share wedding expenses, and who pays for what * Seating divorced parents and making sure they get along * Handling advice--and interference--from family, friends, in-laws, and perfect strangers * Including children in a second wedding * Answering the tough question: "Am I invited to the wedding?" With special sections on: * Theme weddings * Military weddings * Ethnic and religious customs * Prenuptial agreements * Vows * Long-distance planning * Charts on tipping, fashions and seating * Photography and videography * Music and deejays * Invitations * Flowers and cakes * Interfaith ceremonies

Author Notes

Bride's Magazine debuted in 1934 and is the longtime leader in the bridal publishing industry, both in circulation and pages of advertising.

Table of Contents

1 Your Engagementp. 1
Sharing the News
Engagement Checklist
Length of Engagement
Sticky Engagement Questions
Publishing the News
Preparing Your Announcement
Announcement Wording
Engagement Parties
Engagement Presents
Engagement Gifts to Give Each Other
Engagement Customs
What to Call In-Laws
What to Call Stepparents
Broken Engagements
2 Wedding Customsp. 11
Contemporary Customs
Something Old, Something New
American Customs
International Customs
American Wedding Trends
Trends for the Bride
Trends for the Groom
3 Prewedding Partiesp. 33
The Shower
Guest-of-Honor Tips
15 New Shower Ideas
Creative Shower Activities
Remarrying Shower-Gift Ideas
Bridesmaids' Parties
The Bachelor Party
Surviving His Bachelor Party
The Bachelorette Bash
Work-Party Themes
Wedding Work Parties
The Rehearsal Dinner
The Wedding Breakfast
4 Planning Your Weddingp. 43
When--Date and Time
Wedding Decisions
Allergy-Attack Tips
Creative Wedding Sites
Where--Choosing the Site
Outdoor-Site Considerations
Site Decorations
How--Style and Formality
Visiting Your Clergymember
Degrees of Wedding Formality
Do You Need Premarital Counseling? Red Flags
Ceremony and Officiant Fees
Planning an Interfaith Ceremony
Choosing an Officiant--When You're Unaffiliated
Planning a Civil Ceremony
Civil-Ceremony Officiants
The Marriage License
The Marriage Certificate
Prenuptial-Agreement Tips
Prenuptial Agreements
Before You Wed
The Name Decision
Changing Places
A Diamond's 4 C's
Selecting Your Rings
Stone Shapes
Who Pays for What?
Sharing Expenses
A Wedding Consultant's Duties
Hiring a Wedding Consultant
Bride's Calendar
Groom's Calendar
Planning Long-Distance
If Someone's Disabled
If One of You Is Disabled
Hiring a Caterer
Caterer's Contract Tips
Choosing the Right Reception Site
Reception Rental Tips
Reception Menu
Creative Menu Tips
Reception Glossary
Reception Meal Options
Wedding Tipping
Thoughtful Gestures
5 Invitations and Announcementsp. 69
Compiling Your Guest List
Ordering Invitations
Printing Techniques
Working with a Stationer
Popular Lettering Styles
Invitation Styles
Stationery Budget Tips
Wording Invitations
Professional Titles
Military Titles
Assembling Invitations
Addressing Envelopes
Another Formal Invitation Option
Mailing Invitations
Quick Invitations
Forms of Address
Progressive-Wedding Invitations
Long-Weekend Wedding Response Cards
Long-Weekend Wedding Invitations
Keeping Track of Responses
Invitation-Response Tips
Recalling Invitations
Who Gets Announcements?
Other Printing Needs
Reaffirmation of Vows
Wedding-Anniversary Invitations
6 The Wedding Partyp. 93
The Bride's Role
The Groom's Role
A Pregnant Attendant
The Honor Attendant's Role
The Best Man's Role
Why You Should Have a Wedding Party
New Attendants' Roles
Solving Bridesmaids' Dilemmas Without Hurting Feelings
The Bridesmaids' and Ushers' Roles
The Head Usher
The Child Attendants' Roles
Child Attendants' Dos and Don'ts
The Mother of the Bride's Role
Divorced Parents
The Father of the Bride's Role
Special Members of the Wedding
The Parents of the Groom's Roles
7 Wedding Clothesp. 111
Shopping for Your Gown
Gown-Shopping List
10 Questions to Ask Before Buying Your Gown
Your Fashion Dilemmas
Wedding-Dress Contract Tips
Sizing Your Gown
Dress Features for Each Body Type
Fitting Your Gown
Wedding-Dress Glossary
How to Walk in a Gown
Guide to Wedding Clothes
Wearing an Heirloom Gown
9 Ways to Personalize Your Wedding Look
Preserving Your Gown
Wedding-Day Jewelry Ideas
Additional Bridal Accessories
Grooms, Attendants, Fathers
Formalwear Contract Tips
Your Formalwear Dilemmas
Anatomy of a Tuxedo
Tying a Bow Tie
Pocket Squares
Formalwear Sizing
Groom's Formalwear Glossary
Shopping for Bridesmaids' Gowns
Bridesmaids and Honor Attendants
Mothers of the Bride and Groom
Child Attendants
8 Your Wedding Ceremonyp. 135
Questions for Clergy
Getting Guests Involved
Planning the Ceremony
Creative Ceremony Touches
Ceremony Readings
To Find Scripture
Unity Symbols
Honoring Deceased Relatives
Writing Your Own Vows
Two Religions, One Wedding: Interfaith Ceremony Tips
Your Rehearsal
Civil-Ceremony Tips
Night-Before-the-Ceremony Tips
Seating Guests
Christian-Ceremony Seating
Ceremony Countdown
Jewish-Ceremony Seating
Ceremony Tips
The Procession
Christian Procession
Jewish Procession
Your Ceremony Escort
Christian Ceremony Positions
Remarriage-Ceremony Escorts
Altar Procedures
What's in a Program?
The Wedding Program
Jewish Ceremony Positions
The Recession
Christian Recession
Jewish Recession
9 Religious Rituals and Requirementsp. 155
Religious Marriage Requirements
Eastern Orthodox
Islamic (Muslim)
Roman Catholic
The Interfaith Wedding
Religious Wedding Variations
10 Special Weddings and New Ways to Wedp. 169
The Long Weekend Wedding
Long Weekend Wedding Tips
The Progressive Wedding
Progressive-Wedding Tips
The Sentimental Journey
Sentimental-Journey Tips
The Honeymoon Wedding
Honeymoon Wedding Tips
The Rush Wedding
Rush Wedding Tips
The Military Wedding
Military Wedding Tips
Wedding of a Clergymember
Wedding Tips for Clerics
The Double Wedding
Double-Wedding Tips
Home- or Outdoor-Wedding Site Tips
The Home or Outdoor Wedding
Home- or Outdoor-Wedding Planning Tips
The Candlelight Wedding
Candlelight-Ceremony Tips
Theme Weddings
Ethnic-Wedding Planning Tips
Ethnic Weddings
More Ways to Wed
Surprise-Wedding Tips
All-Night Wedding Tips
11 Remarriagep. 185
Announcing Your Engagement
Second-Time Shower Themes
Prewedding Parties
Second Wedding Sites
Planning Your Ceremony
Who Pays for What?
Visiting Your Officiant
Invitations and Announcements
Introduction Etiquette
Your Name Change
The Question of Names
Your Remarriage Wedding Dress
Ceremony Roles for Children
The Ceremony
Reception Roles for Children
Helping Your Children Adjust
The Reception
The If-You-Have-Children Honeymoon
The Second Honeymoon
12 Sticky Situations, Unexpected Situationsp. 197
Crisis Control: Handling Wedding Dilemmas
Wedding-Day Emergency Kit
Wedding-Contract Musts
How to Prevent Problems
If You've Been Ripped Off
Sticky Situations
13 Your Receptionp. 207
Reception Timetable
Receiving-Line Etiquette
The Receiving Line
Receiving-Line Order
Guest-Book Tips
Reception Seating Tips
The Guest Book
Reception Seating
The Parents' Table
The Head Table
Head-Table Etiquette
Toasting Tips
Wedding Toasts
Cake Innovations
The Wedding Cake
Creative Cake Toppers
Cake Toppers
The Groom's Cake
Reception Dancing
First-Dance Order
Creative Activities
Reception Entertainment
Wedding Favors
Tossing Tips
Wedding Pranks
The Bouquet and Garter Toss
When You're on a Budget: Reception Cost-Cutters
Personalizing Your Reception
14 Wedding Musicp. 221
Religious Ceremony Music
Ceremony Music Timetable
Ceremony Choices
Hiring Musicians
Music-Contract Tips
Hiring a Disc Jockey
Disc Jockey Pluses
The Ceremony
The Reception
Music for Your Ceremony and Reception
15 Wedding Flowersp. 229
Your Floral Agenda
Cost-Cutting Tips
Questions for Your Florist
Prayer Book Flowers
Flower-Contract Tips
Bouquet Glossary
The White Bouquet
Bouquet Trends
Floral Headpieces
Bridesmaids' Blossoms
Classic White Bouquet Choices
Children's Blossoms
Modern White Bouquet Choices
Colorful Accents
The Language of Flowers
Aromatic Flowers
Flowers in Season
Ceremony Flowers
Personalizing Your Ceremony and Reception Site with Flowers
Floral Styles
Reception Flowers
Centerpiece Trends
New Ideas for Centerpieces
Your Floral Keepsakes
Floral Dos and Don'ts
16 Photography, Videography, and Publicityp. 241
Wedding-Portrait Trends
Your Bridal Portrait
Camera-Ready Makeup
Your Wedding Announcement
Makeup for Black-and-White Photos
News Tips
Photo Trends
Photo Secrets
Wedding Photography
Photo Contract Tips
Wedding Videography
Video Contract Tips
Budget-Conscious Tips
Prewedding News
Photo Gift Ideas
17 Wedding Giftsp. 249
The Wedding Gift Registry
Gift-Receiving Etiquette
Your Gift Record
Where to Register
Couples' Gift Questions
Gifts for Remarriage
Gift-Display Tips
Present Problems: Handling Wedding-Gift Dilemmas
Wedding-Gift Protection
Thank-You Notes
Thank-You-Note Tips
Three-Step Guide to Writing Thank-You Notes
Wording Thank-You Notes
Monogramming Gifts
Buy Thank-You Gifts For
Gifts for Attendants
Thank-You Gifts
Gifts for the Bride and Groom
Gifts That Reflect Your Heritages
Anniversary Gifts
18 Wedding Guestsp. 267
Receiving an Invitation
Invitation Dos and Don'ts
Receiving an Announcement
Out-of-Town Weddings
Gift-Giving Etiquette
The Wedding Gift
When Wedding Gifts May Be Optional
Dressing for the Wedding
Ceremony Procedures
Guest Ceremony Tips
Reception Rituals
Guest Reception Tips
19 Going Awayp. 277
Leaving the Reception
Staying at the Reception
Car-Decorating Tips
Attending Postwedding Parties
Decorating the Car
Creative Getaways
Renting a Limousine
Limousine-Contract Tips
Having Your Friends Drive
The First Night
Traveling Together
Honeymoon Tips
Honeymoon-Travel Plans
Honeymoon-Budget Tips
Once You Get There: 10 Cost Cutters
Honeymoon Countdown
Honeymoon Health
Portable Medicine Chest
Travel Dilemmas
How to Pack
Carry-On Items
Travel Protocol
Coming Home
Honeymoon Tipping
Newlywed Checklist
20 Reaffirmationp. 295
Why a Reaffirmation?
Reaffirmation Newspaper Announcements
Reaffirmation Questions
Reaffirmation Sites
Reaffirmation Preparation
Reaffirmation Invitations
Reaffirmation Attire
Reaffirmation Gifts
Reaffirmation Vows
Reaffirmation-Ring Ideas
Reaffirmation Rings
The Reaffirmation Reception
Reaffirmation Favors
A Second Honeymoon
Appendixp. 303
Indexp. 316